Third letter - http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20130929
LW hosts a dinner party, for eight, and served an "expensive meat" veggie, salad and great dessert, and was shocked that some (?), all (?) guests asked for leftovers! She said she felt if they were nervy enough to ask, they deserved them, but DA disgagreed.
She said she would never ask, as it was rude, alhtough she did point out some hosts do offer. She also told the LW if she wanted to keep them for herself, she should have said no, politely, of course. I think the LW's guests were rude in asking. IF she had offered, fine, but she didnt. I think she also should have polished her spine, although Ican see how she might have felt put on the spot.
I totally agree with this. I would never ask someone who hosted a dinner party for leftovers. When I host, if I have a lot, I will offer, but if not, I don't, and no one has ever asked me for any either. But my dinnes are usually less formal, and consist of something like lasagne, where there is potential for a lot of leftovers. I also host friends for Thanksgiving, and since its just 3 of us, I always offer, but only one takes me up on it!!!
But if I had made invididual steak, or something where there wasn't a lot left, I wouldn't offer as it would be another meal for me.