I was at a bit of a loss for how to respond to my friend on the phone yesterday.
BG: I have three good girlfriends. Three of us live in one town, and the other lives about 40 minutes away. We are all going to a lakehouse next weekend with our spouses/significant others. However, because we haven't really gotten to get together very much in the past couple of months, we also planned to get together for brunch this weekend, on Sunday.
So on Friday I was talking to the friend that lives 40 minutes away, she told me that one of our other friends had to come to her town for some reason, so they got together for lunch or coffee. (We do prefer to get together with all of us, but we all do see each other singly and in other contexts, so no problem there.) In the course of the conversation about the lakehouse trip, my friend said, "Oh, and since A and I already got together today, we thought we would just cancel brunch and just see each other next weekend." Then she joked about not having enough news/gossip to sustain both a girls brunch and a weekend trip.
I was a bit taken aback that since they had their social needs met or whatever, that the other two of us who weren't there would just be ok with cancelling, and that they could just decide it for us. On the phone I just didn't respond and changed the subject, but I wondered if I should have said something in a jokey tone in the moment, like "Oh, well its great that you and A got together, so I guess E and I can just lump it!"
I actually ended up having brunch with E this morning, and I texted her something like "Oh, well I guess we're not having brunch tomorrow??" She hadn't heard from the other two, so she asked, "Oh, you don't want to anymore?" Then I filled her in on the "decision" and we had a bit of a laugh and eyeroll about it.
What would you have done in that situation?
I would have felt much better about the whole thing had my friend just appealed to being busy or whatever.