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Re: The dinner date that didnít happen
« Reply #90 on: October 07, 2013, 03:13:44 PM »
I don't think either one of them behaved appropriately.  However, Rick was worse.  His comment to the waitress would NOT have gone over well with me.

Her teary phone messages don't make her sound stable.  I'm not saying she is unstable; they just make her sound that way.

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Re: The dinner date that didnít happen
« Reply #91 on: October 07, 2013, 03:14:42 PM »
Btw contrary to what someone said, Rick did not ďwalk outĒ and leave her sitting there to eat alone.  As stated before he paid for the drinks and walked her to the door of the hotel.

So, exactly how was she supposed to get something to eat that night? Honestly, I would tell him "walk yourself out, I'm ordering some food here."

Sure, she had the option of ordering, eating, and paying for her own food after he left.  Or, get something on the way home or fix something at home.   When he said "I'll walk you out" she could have stayed.  But she choose not to - he went his way and she went hers.  but imo food wasn't her main concern.

Perhaps, although let me say, by that point in the evening, it would have been mine. I've been waiting nearly an hour to find my date, we've had drinks, and now he's leaving even before the appetizers are ordered?

I'll forgive a lot on a date, but you don't get between me and dinner!  >:(
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Re: The dinner date that didnít happen
« Reply #92 on: October 07, 2013, 03:18:34 PM »
I didn't say this before but like others, I'm baffled that either one of them waited 45 minutes. I probably would have given up after 30 minutes at the most. But in the meantime, I would definitely have walked around looking for him multiple times and asked at the hostess stand.

And yeah, while there is no social obligation to have a cell phone available at all times, in this day and age, I think it's pretty much expected in addition to just being good sense.

There's no question that they both messed up. But again, her behavior both before, during and after what there was of the date makes her seem really desperate to me, which, over and above his or her conduct, makes me think that he was better off without her.

If a guy ended a date in this manner, would you call him to ask what went wrong? She's trying to figure out what she did wrong... so either he didn't behave nearly as badly as it sounds to us, or she is really hard up.

I'm reading her "what went wrong" as more of a "double-u tee eff" than a "what did I do wrong?". They'd been communicating online for a month, and then when they finally meet, all this happens. I wouldn't do it myself--I'd write him off--but I don't think it means he's an angel or she's desperate, necessarily.

Oh yeah, he's no angel. But regardless of anything he did, or maybe I should say, specifically because of everything he did, her behavior smacks of desperation. At least, it does to me. Others may not agree and that's fine.

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Re: The dinner date that didnít happen
« Reply #93 on: October 07, 2013, 03:19:00 PM »
I, personally, wouldn't want to stay in a restaurant where I was so humiliated. I'd order a pizza, get some beer and watch cheesy movies in my hotel room for the rest of the night!

Even if she is a desperate or needy person, that doesn't excuse Rick's treatment of her during their non-date. He needs to step up, be an adult, and message her where they were talking pre-date to say it wasn't going to work out, that he didn't feel and chemistry with her and he wishes her the best.

He pretty much ended a date and disappeared with no explanation. Now he's hiding from her and telling people she's desperate for him after a couple messages. I'd be confused/upset about what happened at the date - why someone I got along with well on the internet was so rude. I'd want an explanation.

But, I wouldn't call because I don't think someone who would act like he did would be worth the lame excuse anyways

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Re: The dinner date that didnít happen
« Reply #94 on: October 07, 2013, 03:28:55 PM »
I think they both dodged a bullet. 

"Rick he had told her to meet him at the entrance to the restaurant.  He waited, and waited, and checked the lobby, called her cell and left a msg, and after about 45 minutes he saw her standing there.  ... she was ticked off and made no effort to hide it.  Rick says he was taken aback, told her she was supposed to meet him at the entrance to the restaurant, and that he had left her a message.  She said her phone petered out, and that she was about to leave when she saw him."

The mix up about where to meet sounds like a true mistake.  Once she found the bar was closed, it should have been obvious that something was wrong and that would have been the time to call and find out what happened.  I suppose her phone could have petered out as she was making that call, making it no ones fault.  He presumably thought he was in the right place, but kept looking around and called her but go her voice-mail.  I get why she was upset, but it just sounds like a series of mixups.  If she was playing on here phone and ran down the battery as has been suggested, then it's bad judgement at best to be waiting for your date outside a closed bar and rather than calling, use all the charge in your phone for other things. 
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But he wasn't even where he thought he had told her to meet him.
From the first OP
Rick he had told her to meet him at the entrance to the restaurant.

Then the OP followed up that Rick actually got a table and would go out and check the entrance and eventually went looking for her. For all we know the woman did wander around the lobby checkin other locations like the entrance to the restaurant.