I don't know if this has been addressed, and I swear this is not a joke post. I live in a rowhouse. My neighbor's front bedroom shares a wall with my bedroom. He's a young guy, in his early 30s, and got a new girlfriend. They are very enthusiastic about each other, to put it lightly.
I really don't know how to put this without being blunt, so: their late at night passion sessions are keeping me awake. It sounds like someone is pounding on the wall with a hammer. I can hear the vocalizations, but can drown those out by putting a fan on. The banging on the wall is not something I can stop from waking me up. 1AM in the morning, when I have to get up for work the next day - it's becoming a problem.
I think if he just moved the bed away from our shared wall, on the other side of the room, or at least a foot away, that would be a solution. However, although we are friends with this guy, enough to go to his barbecues and have him over to our backyard parties, we're not close close friends.
How can I deal with this? I was thinking about a note, because, as a woman, I can't imagine bringing it up to his face - something like "John, you may not be aware of this but your bed is very close to the wall we share. When you move around in it, it bangs against my wall, if you catch my drift. This could be remedied by moving your bed away from the wall. Next time we see each other, I will pretend I never sent this note. Agreed?
Alternatively, maybe my husband could say something man-to-man...they often have a beer together on the porch. But my husband is British so not very 'up front' about sensitive matters.
Any advice GRATEFULLY received!