I think you should always feel you can talk to the pastor about how you personally are living the beliefs the church espouses. And about whether this is the place for you to be a worshipping member.
This is getting in the way of your relationship with God. I think you absolutely should explore this with your minister.
It's not that you should complain. Go and say, "This is really troubling me. It drives me away, in my heart. I need to explore this." And then be honest.
Don't think of it as you convincing him or even as him convincing you. Think of it as him expanding and explaining,a nd you deciding whether this integrates with how you think of God, and what your relationship with the Almighty is.
And if this is still the sort of thing that drives you away from God, and you believe that this is not true to what God is, then you may need to find a different church to be a member of.
You can send your children to that school even if you cease to be a member of that church. My kids attended 2 church schools, and I wasn't a member of the churches affiliated (well, that's not true--one of them was linked to our congregation, but not in our neighborhood), and many of the children in that school weren't members of the denomination, even. And some not even members of that larger body of faith.
(and total aside: Galatians 2:28)
The train-track analogy:
You might find that the trains are far more frequent, and now you need to figure out what to do. Obviously, you can't affect how often the trains come, but that doesn't mean you are forbidden from complaining, nor are you forbidden from exploring more about the issue.
If you discovered that the trains were running more frequently because commerce was increasing in your state, then maybe you'd have a mental attitude that each train was evidence of more jobs, less unemployement, etc., and you wouldn't mind it as much. (if the thumping on the floor upstairs is the kitten or the friendly little kid, I smile; if it's the snotty teenager, I feel differently)
Similarly, you might find a way to integrate this thought that is not as punitive and minimalizing as you think of it now.
Or, you might discover that the increase in train traffic is permanent, and that there's really no upside like more jobs. And then you'd decide that it's time to move to a new home.
With this, it's your faith--it's your relationship with God. Absolutely you should explore it.