So I have a lot of really great friends who live abroad, and while we haven't exactly worked out logistics we will be getting married in the states. I know most of them can't afford to travel this far just to see us get hitched, nor would most of them want to (they love us, but gee that's a lot of time/money).
So, here's the etiquette question, do I still invite them? I'd love to have them at the wedding. I talk to them often, and I feel they're important people in my life. But Partner worries (and I feel she has a valid point), it'll look like a gift grab. Sort of, we're inviting you even though we know you won't be able to make it but will feel obligated to send us a gift anyways. Which isn't the point to me at all. I don't care if anyone, attending or not, gives us anything other then a "Congratulations!", maybe a hug if they come (I like hugs). One had I don't want to snub them with a non-invite, on the other hand I don't want them to feel obligated to get us a gift.