I had a dispute with a relative and his wife about two yrs ago. (The issue is complicated, and without telling the whole story, suffice it to say that aside from that touchy subject, we got along quite well.) They periodically brought up the subject, and I gave my perspective and discussed it to the point where I told them I didn’t care to talk about it anymore. We disagreed, and I knew that’s the way it would always be.
Anyway, despite them agreeing not to bring up subject, they did it again and made another effort to get me to “come around” to their way of thinking. The fur hit the fan and we exchanged a few tense emails. Since then there has been no communication. However, I didn’t discuss the dispute with any other relatives.
Those relatives (they live in another state) are liked/respected by many (with good reason). However, I noticed that a few (local) people with whom they are quite close suddenly ‘cooled’ towards me. (Not replying to my emails or FB msgs, not returning calls.) That stung. I had what I felt was a decent relationship with those relatives (who were not involved in the dispute at all). Most recently, a few weeks ago I left a touch base vm with one of those people, but never got a reply. Okay……. well, I’m not going to force myself on them.
Coincidence? I don’t think so. Thoughts?