She basically said that she had been told a time to get ready by, met that time, but was accused of being late because we all just decided to leave once we were ready. When someone asked her if she had noticed other people getting ready, she said "yes, but presumably you would have had a shower and got dressed even if we weren't going anywhere. I thought that's what you were doing." She also said that if we'd told her that we were going ASAP, she wouldn't have made the decision to watch TV, but that we didn't say that
Interesting that Alice would assume that everyone else showering was just a normal part of getting up rather than specifically getting ready to go when that's not what she did herself.
I'm confused by the comment in bold - my impression is that Alice did shower as part of her 'getting up' ritual so I don't understand. I'm basing this on the fact that the OP said she took less than a half hour (maybe 15 minutes?) to get ready to go out, and I'm assuming she was doing last minute things like changing, or makeup, or just gathering things together, so I could be wrong about it.
In the OP it was explained that Alice got up and threw on some casual clothes and (I think it was later stated) hadn't showered or put on the clothes she intended to wear to go out.
Later, after the holiday, Alice told the OP that she hadn't realised everyone else getting showered and dressed meant they were getting ready to go out. Alice said "presumably you would have had a shower and got dressed even if we weren't going anywhere. I thought that's what you were doing."
But Alice herself didn't shower and get dressed when first getting up. So she assumed that everyone else's ablutions and dressing were part of normal behaviour when this was not her own behaviour. This makes me side eye what Alice actually was thinking about everyone else getting ready.
I understand what you're saying, but I can also understand Alice's actions from a completely non-PA point of view, as I could see myself doing something similar. Let me try to explain my theoretical thought-process if I were in Alice's shoes.
- I wake up early and realize I have to get something in the car. I'm not really mentally ready to get ready for the day so I just throw on some random clothes - possibly even yesterday's clothes - intending to get washed and changed later.
- People start getting showered and getting ready for the day - same as I would have done if I hadn't had to get up early and thus got dressed before I felt like taking a shower.
- Bob tells me that we'll leave at noon - at least, that's how I understand it - meaning I have plenty of time to get ready.
- People get impatient because I'm not ready, whereas I didn't know they were getting ready-ready instead of just ready-for-the-day ready.
If you've never had to get up and do something that required clothes before you felt ready to take a shower, then this thought-process might not make any sense to you at all. But I could so easily see myself in Alice's shoes, and see nothing PA or suspect about it.