I'm a little annoyed, and don't know whether I should say anything to the people I'm annoyed with. I probably shouldn't.
First situation (Let's call the lady in this story Alice): I moved in late Aug. I took my 3yo son for a walk around our new neighborhood, and we met an extrememly friendly lady who invited us over for a playdate at her house a few days later. We went to the playdate and had fun. In an effort to return her kindness, a few weeks ago I invited her and her children over for a playdate at our house. The day of the playdate, she called to say her kids' naptimes got all messed up and they couldn't come at the time we had originally planned. So we rescheduled for the following week. The day before that, I texted to confirm, and she never got back to me. They didn't show up either. So...what was that about? She did send a group text a few days later to see if anyone was interested in a sign language playdate that cost money, but I wasn't interested in that, so I just texted her a small "no thanks" message back. I suppose it is possible that she didn't see my confirming text message, but it seems unlikely. At this point, I'm thinking of not texting/calling anymore. I'm not super desperate for friends, and my son is in pre-school, so making friends there. Of course, it is nice to have friends in the neighborhood, but we are friendly with other people...so again, not like super desperate to make friends.
Second situation (Let's call the lady in this story Lisa): An old coworker of mine lives pretty close by to the new house where we just moved. We are friends on facebook, and actually her husband works for the same company where I work. (Actually, we all started out in the same department, so we were friends before they got married.) Anyhoo, when she found out that I'm moving close by, she said we should get together and let our kids meet each other. I said I would love to do that, and sometime after we moved and got settled in, and emailed her to ask about her afternoon schedule to see if we could come by for a visit sometime. She said we should come by anytime. So I emailed her one more time, giving a specific day. And...she never emailed me back. I wasn't going to just show up without confirming, and also I didn't know exactly where she lived. I'm not planning to email again, but wondering what others would do.
Third situation (Let's call this lady Mary): Mary and I have been friends since birth. So this one stings a little more than the others. We communicate mostly through IM because I moved a few states away, and she still lives in our home state. She's always been kind of on the flaky side, but it's been better lately since I tend not to put anything she says in stone. Also, we are both busy with work, family, etc... Anyway, we were chatting on Friday, and she asked if I would like to video chat on Sunday morning. Our kids are 2 years apart, and do like to see each other, if not actually do anything. We set up a time, and she said she would call first just to make sure we were up. Well, if my son was up (he's not a morning person). So about 30 minutes before, I realized my son wasn't going to be in a socialable mood, and I texted her to ask if we could video chat a little later than our scheduled time. She didn't text me back. So after my son was finally up and ready to be friendly, I texted her again. Still no answer, so we went about our day. She finally texted me back hours later, apologizing saying they had a late morning too, and forgot that we made plans to video chat. Ugh. I mean, I understand having late nights, and rough mornings, but this was the 3rd time sometime blew me off, so I was annoyed. I didn't text her anything back. I'm thinking of just telling her, next time we are both online, that I was just disappointed we missed each other...but I'm really more than disappointed. Not sure whether it's worth it to say that though.
Sorry this got so long, didn't realize I had so much to say!