I've always been lucky with my mom. She's encouraged me to read, think, ask questions, and be smart. In fact when I once worried I wasn't pretty (I was maybe
my mom said "Sweetie, you are pretty. But remember, looks are boring. It doesn't take skill to be good looking. Be smart. Smart lasts forever and is actually impressive". She also drilled into my head that normal was boring too. I mean, the woman handed me To Kill a Mockingbird, when I was in 3rd grade. It was one of her favorite books and I was complaining about being bored.
My grandmother is a bit of an odd duck. She likes that I'm educated and will often tell her friend she got the "smart granddaughter" however complained I spent too much time reading and that I didn't need to keep going to school after high school. Very odd mixed message. She herself is very bright, as is my mother, but lacks formal education past 9th or 10th grade (I can't remember which year she quit going). However she's better with computers then I am and can catch onto ideas quickly.
My classmates. Oh, my classmates. Well I was just a walking talking target in school. I was too tall, I developed earlier then the other girls, I was gay
, and oh yeah, I was smart. I used to get into trouble for reading ahead of the kids in class. I once had a teacher scold me that my reading ahead made the other kids feel badly about themselves. I asked why that was my problem. Then I got sent to the office. I also hated library time because I was limited to where I could check books out from based on my age. My mother finally sent a letter oking me to read the 7th and 8th grade books (our school was k-8) in 4th grade. Of course I had already read most of them but it was better then what I was "allowed" to read. In high school I just took advanced classes and did a dual enrollment at the community college. The only time I got teased/picked on was by someone who wanted me to do their homework. When I refused I was teased for being smart. But...but that's why you want me to...never mind.
As an adult, I just surround myself with other smart people and it's a non-issue. We all have areas we know a lot about, so we get together, we talk, we educate each other, it's wonderful.
As for not finding a boy. Well I got told that as well. It was pretty much a non-issue. Turns out girls, are super into smart girls. But I know a lot of smart girls with guys...so clearly it's a non-issue there too. I do think the phrase is the key though, boys don't like smart girls. But men love smart women.