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#### jpcher

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##### Wedding/Shower/Whatever Party Favors . . . Thoughts?
« on: October 17, 2013, 06:29:52 PM »
Reading the hosting a shower thread in "Life in General" I got to thinking about party favors. Some posters in that thread thought they were useless and others thought that they were fun, thoughtful and creative.

I didn't want to derail that thread, but I was wondering what people thought about party favors for specialty type parties (like weddings/bridal or baby showers/housewarmings, etc.)

What was the best/worst party favor you ever received?

If you host a party, do you feel that a party favor is a must? What type of favors do you give?

When you attend this type of function, are you disappointed/do you think it's rude if there isn't a party favor?

What is the point behind party favors? Is it meant to be a simple TY for attending? or is it suppose to be a something for your guests to remember this special day?

Back in the day (30 years ago) the thing to do for weddings was to have a matchbook engraved with the name of the couple and the date. I threw them into my "box of memories" and never used them. Alas, my BoM is gone, but I remember looking through the box every now and and then and when finding the matchbook thinking "Oh, yeah, I remember that wedding!" So I guess the party favor was pretty much useless but it did it's job . . . bringing back memories.

For my BWW, my mother insisted on finding something unique for the party favors. We settled on something like this: http://www.dollartree.com/floral/vases-bowls-containers/7-inch-Jardin-Glass-Vases/559c543c543p294228/index.pro filled with candies, along with a ribbon around the neck including a tag with mine and exH's name and date of the wedding.

Just throwing this out there . . .

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##### Re: Wedding/Shower/Whatever Party Favors . . . Thoughts?
« Reply #1 on: October 17, 2013, 07:30:48 PM »
I don't usually care for party favors. I see them as wasteful. You are already supplying me with a place to be, food and hopefully booze. I don't need/want any knick knacks, I don't wear nail polish, etc. I live in a small condo so I don't have room for stuff I don't need.

#### Kaypeep

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##### Re: Wedding/Shower/Whatever Party Favors . . . Thoughts?
« Reply #2 on: October 17, 2013, 07:40:43 PM »
I loathe them and think they are wasteful, for the reasons the PP just stated.  Even the food ones. I usually have a tiny purse with me at weddings, I don't want to lug stuff home.  I usually just leave them on the table for the inevitable "favor hog" guest who goes around taking anything that's not nailed down. (Leftover favors, centerpieces, plants, etc.)

#### Amara

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##### Re: Wedding/Shower/Whatever Party Favors . . . Thoughts?
« Reply #3 on: October 17, 2013, 07:43:05 PM »
I dislike them and if I can do so without attracting attention I leave them behind. If not, I take and toss. I hate seeing people spend money on stuff that pleases them but may be of no interest to me. Since I tend to be a minimalist and do not collect things most are useless. And I especially hate adding to the city trash dump.

#### MizA

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#### Fritokal

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##### Re: Wedding/Shower/Whatever Party Favors . . . Thoughts?
« Reply #14 on: October 18, 2013, 12:27:33 AM »
What is the point behind party favors? Is it meant to be a simple TY for attending? or is it suppose to be a something for your guests to remember this special day?

(snipping the rest since this is the question I'm answering)

I feel like favors should be a combination of a little fun thank you for attending, and a something for guests to remember the special day. My personal favorites (and what I've used as inspiration in the past) have combined a little bit of both ideas together.

1) Something little and consumable - for my wedding we did M&M's in the wedding colors, I've gotten a truffle or decorated cookie before, a little mini shaped soap (that thing lived in my go bag for ages, because it was the perfect run-out-the-door size)

2) Something that acts as a time/date/place keepsake - a single visible memory of the day, variable depending on budget and size of the crowd. A magnet, a christmas decoration, a photograph and frame - it really depends.  My personal favorites are CD mixes, because I'm a child of the mixtape era, and it's fairly simple and creative to make a playlist of songs and a "cd cover' and burn and print.
2a) BONUS! A unique memento of the day - depending on the theme, something quirky - a friend did off-season magnets (she hosted a spring baby shower, but gave out christmas ornaments and halloween magnets. It made TOTAL sense at the time given the friend she was throwing it for.)  We attached red plastic spoons to our wedding favors because the spoon was a symbol of something unique to our ceremony, I got a cake decorating tip and measuring spoon as a bridal shower favor once (again, it made 100% sense in context)

I think favors should be both a momento AND somehing and consumable. Hit both the immediate "YAY! That was fun!" note, and also the longer-term memories.