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Re: What "Amazing Opportunities" (to be used) have you passed up?
« Reply #435 on: Today at 01:51:25 AM »
Direct quote from my MIL:

"I clickie-clickied the circle thingy and it went 'bloo-bloo-bloo-BLOOP!' but now it's just going 'DONG DONG DONG' what do I do?"

Translation: she tried to open her internet browser and it gave her an (easily-skippable, if she had read it) error message.

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Re: What "Amazing Opportunities" (to be used) have you passed up?
« Reply #436 on: Today at 06:49:54 AM »
Fortunately, mom is grateful for me taking care of her computer stuff. She also learned really quickly not to volunteer my services after the first time when I asked, "What in the world made you think it was even remotely okay to say I'm going to do something without asking me first?"

Recently, she had a co-irker that had an opportunity that she still doesn't understand why mom passed up on.

A bit of background: This person is a condescending 19 year old who spends more of her shift talking with people, or fooling with her phone, rather than doing her job. She'd been given verbal warnings before being written up twice and has been told if she gets written up a third time, she's gone. Mom can't stand her and is very coolly polite.

Said walking case of professional darwinism had a car accident. Due to her not paying attention while driving, swerving to avoid something not actually there and hit a tree. Her car is currently in the shop. She thought that because she and mom work the same shift, mom would just take her home after each shift because mom gave her a ride one time.

This person lives 5 miles out of the way in a housing development that's got only one entrance and exit and is like a maze.

Mom of course passed up on this. Co-irker tried to get their manager to make mom give her a ride. Manager stared at co-irker incredulously before saying that wouldn't be possible.

Supposedly they have a new person coming in soon, once he's trained co-irker is gone.

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Re: What "Amazing Opportunities" (to be used) have you passed up?
« Reply #437 on: Today at 06:57:11 AM »
My nearly 80 year old aunt just passed up an amazing opportunity that my father offered her. He suggested that she get an apartment near him. Right now she lives 50 miles away with her son and it is working out quite well. The reason my father thought this was such a great idea?    Well aunt drives and she could take him to the casino, the doctors and the shops.  I asked him what was in it for her and he said that she got to drive him around. :o 

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Re: What "Amazing Opportunities" (to be used) have you passed up?
« Reply #438 on: Today at 09:18:33 AM »
DH and BIL went to the same trade school and graduated at the same time.  Jobs in this field do exist but there aren't tons of them; many people who train in this field do so with the intent of opening their own shop.  DH was able to get a job in a wonderful part of the country about 4 months after graduation; we moved and got settled in.  BIL moved back in with their parents.  About 4 months after DH and I moved, BIL called with a wonderful opportunity: he'd met a man who owned a small shop in a tiny, very very rural area in Oklahoma.  He wanted to retire and was looking for someone to take over the business.  He'd train them for a year, then retire.  BIL thought DH would jump at the opportunity to move out there and be his 'partner' .  DH did not.  Because:

1.  There was no provision for any actual salary or benefits during this training period.  Not sure what BIL would be living on, but DH and I would be pretty much entirely dependent on whatever bits he was able to make in addition to my salary, assuming that I would be able to continue my work from home job.
2.  The business was supporting one person in a reasonable style.  How was it going to support 3?
3.  Health insurance?
4.  Part of BIL's great plan was that we'd all share a house to cut down expenses.  Nope.  No way was I going to be the primary financial support as well as the person cooking and cleaning for everyone.
5.  The area where we had moved is beautiful, mountainous, wonderful climate.  The particular part of OK that he wanted us to move to is flat, drought ridden, not particular scenic.
6.  And the main reason - BIL has always treated DH like his personal servant.  He's got a terrible personality, and they wouldn't be partners in a business so much as DH would be the workforce while BIL 'managed' him.

BIL whined for months about how he had missed his great opportunity because his family wouldn't support him.

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Re: What "Amazing Opportunities" (to be used) have you passed up?
« Reply #439 on: Today at 10:28:08 AM »
Why on earth didn't she eat the food provided?  (Unless she had special dietary needs, that is.)

That reminds me of a party I threw once (I told this story on the main EHell page).  My friend brought his SS wife, who happened to be pregnant at the time.   I saw him chatting to someone and asked where his wife was:

Friend:  She went to the store to get something she could drink.
Me:  Um, why?  We've got lots to drink here.  (Note:  in addition to a lot of adult beverages, I'd also provided milk, soda, and juice.)
Friend:  *slowly, as though to someone who's not very bright*  She can't drink alcohol.  She's pregnant.
Me:  Yes, I know - I've had two kids myself, remember.  But we've got loads of non-alcoholic beverages.
Friend:  *triumphantly*  But you don't have any SoBe's drinks, do you?  That's what she wanted.
Me:  *gives up*  You got me there.

Beats me.  There are no dietary restrictions but from what I gathered, she was put out that my family puts out a different type of food buffet than she does.  She was expecting fried chicken and baked mostaccioli and got lasagna and pulled pork.  Quel horror! 

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Re: What "Amazing Opportunities" (to be used) have you passed up?
« Reply #440 on: Today at 12:21:51 PM »
DH and BIL went to the same trade school and graduated at the same time.  Jobs in this field do exist but there aren't tons of them; many people who train in this field do so with the intent of opening their own shop.  DH was able to get a job in a wonderful part of the country about 4 months after graduation; we moved and got settled in.  BIL moved back in with their parents.  About 4 months after DH and I moved, BIL called with a wonderful opportunity: he'd met a man who owned a small shop in a tiny, very very rural area in Oklahoma.  He wanted to retire and was looking for someone to take over the business.  He'd train them for a year, then retire.  BIL thought DH would jump at the opportunity to move out there and be his 'partner' .  DH did not.  Because:

1.  There was no provision for any actual salary or benefits during this training period.  Not sure what BIL would be living on, but DH and I would be pretty much entirely dependent on whatever bits he was able to make in addition to my salary, assuming that I would be able to continue my work from home job.
2.  The business was supporting one person in a reasonable style.  How was it going to support 3?
3.  Health insurance?
4.  Part of BIL's great plan was that we'd all share a house to cut down expenses.  Nope.  No way was I going to be the primary financial support as well as the person cooking and cleaning for everyone.
5.  The area where we had moved is beautiful, mountainous, wonderful climate.  The particular part of OK that he wanted us to move to is flat, drought ridden, not particular scenic.
6.  And the main reason - BIL has always treated DH like his personal servant.  He's got a terrible personality, and they wouldn't be partners in a business so much as DH would be the workforce while BIL 'managed' him.

BIL whined for months about how he had missed his great opportunity because his family wouldn't support him.

If the original owner was doing it alone, why couldn't BIL just do it himself without DH as a "partner"? Yeesh.

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Re: What "Amazing Opportunities" (to be used) have you passed up?
« Reply #441 on: Today at 01:18:07 PM »
DH and BIL went to the same trade school and graduated at the same time.  Jobs in this field do exist but there aren't tons of them; many people who train in this field do so with the intent of opening their own shop.  DH was able to get a job in a wonderful part of the country about 4 months after graduation; we moved and got settled in.  BIL moved back in with their parents.  About 4 months after DH and I moved, BIL called with a wonderful opportunity: he'd met a man who owned a small shop in a tiny, very very rural area in Oklahoma.  He wanted to retire and was looking for someone to take over the business.  He'd train them for a year, then retire.  BIL thought DH would jump at the opportunity to move out there and be his 'partner' .  DH did not.  Because:

1.  There was no provision for any actual salary or benefits during this training period.  Not sure what BIL would be living on, but DH and I would be pretty much entirely dependent on whatever bits he was able to make in addition to my salary, assuming that I would be able to continue my work from home job.
2.  The business was supporting one person in a reasonable style.  How was it going to support 3?
3.  Health insurance?
4.  Part of BIL's great plan was that we'd all share a house to cut down expenses.  Nope.  No way was I going to be the primary financial support as well as the person cooking and cleaning for everyone.
5.  The area where we had moved is beautiful, mountainous, wonderful climate.  The particular part of OK that he wanted us to move to is flat, drought ridden, not particular scenic.
6.  And the main reason - BIL has always treated DH like his personal servant.  He's got a terrible personality, and they wouldn't be partners in a business so much as DH would be the workforce while BIL 'managed' him.

BIL whined for months about how he had missed his great opportunity because his family wouldn't support him.

If the original owner was doing it alone, why couldn't BIL just do it himself without DH as a "partner"? Yeesh.

Not the OP, but my guess is because that would involve BIL doing actual work...instead of being the "manager" and leaving all the actual work to the OP's DH.

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Re: What "Amazing Opportunities" (to be used) have you passed up?
« Reply #442 on: Today at 01:28:45 PM »
DH and BIL went to the same trade school and graduated at the same time.  Jobs in this field do exist but there aren't tons of them; many people who train in this field do so with the intent of opening their own shop.  DH was able to get a job in a wonderful part of the country about 4 months after graduation; we moved and got settled in.  BIL moved back in with their parents.  About 4 months after DH and I moved, BIL called with a wonderful opportunity: he'd met a man who owned a small shop in a tiny, very very rural area in Oklahoma.  He wanted to retire and was looking for someone to take over the business.  He'd train them for a year, then retire.  BIL thought DH would jump at the opportunity to move out there and be his 'partner' .  DH did not.  Because:

1.  There was no provision for any actual salary or benefits during this training period.  Not sure what BIL would be living on, but DH and I would be pretty much entirely dependent on whatever bits he was able to make in addition to my salary, assuming that I would be able to continue my work from home job.
2.  The business was supporting one person in a reasonable style.  How was it going to support 3?
3.  Health insurance?
4.  Part of BIL's great plan was that we'd all share a house to cut down expenses.  Nope.  No way was I going to be the primary financial support as well as the person cooking and cleaning for everyone.
5.  The area where we had moved is beautiful, mountainous, wonderful climate.  The particular part of OK that he wanted us to move to is flat, drought ridden, not particular scenic.
6.  And the main reason - BIL has always treated DH like his personal servant.  He's got a terrible personality, and they wouldn't be partners in a business so much as DH would be the workforce while BIL 'managed' him.

BIL whined for months about how he had missed his great opportunity because his family wouldn't support him.

If the original owner was doing it alone, why couldn't BIL just do it himself without DH as a "partner"? Yeesh.

Not the OP, but my guess is because that would involve BIL doing actual work...instead of being the "manager" and leaving all the actual work to the OP's DH.

That, and BIL couldn't possibly move some place where he didn't know anyone; he'd be loooooonely (he's 35).  And he was counting on my income to fill in the gaps for groceries etc.

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Re: What "Amazing Opportunities" (to be used) have you passed up?
« Reply #443 on: Today at 03:11:07 PM »
This should help: http://xkcd.com/627/ (I believe it's safe for work, although your IT department may giggle uncontrollably and/or weep. Or just nod and shrug.)

I love it!

I know less about computers than my DH, however, I'm more patient and persistent so this happens a lot:

(some annoying computer/phone/Xbox issue has been happening for a few days/weeks)
Me: Guess what. I fixed Problem!
DH: You did? How?
Me: Well, I... (Explains)
DH: Wow. How'd you know that?
Me: I googled it and found suggestions on a few troubleshooting websites.
DH: Cool!

What's hilarious is that this happens constantly. DH will spend hours talking to himself out loud, updating drivers, running scans, etc. and give up with "I dunno. We need to take it to someone." and I'll get it fixed in like 20 minutes. It begs the question - Why doesn't DH just google it? I guess for the same reason he's one of those people who will drive 20 minutes the wrong way before asking for directions. Which I also immediately use google for.  ;D
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Re: What "Amazing Opportunities" (to be used) have you passed up?
« Reply #444 on: Today at 05:41:30 PM »
My parents will drive themselves insane trying to remember who starred in (very obscure British movie from 1952).  Plus, they can't understand why I stopped buying the "Leonard Maltin Movie Guide" book in the early 90's.  When I tell them that all that information is readily available for free on the Internet, I get blank looks.

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Re: What "Amazing Opportunities" (to be used) have you passed up?
« Reply #445 on: Today at 06:26:43 PM »
I love my inlaws, but Great Googlymoogly with the IT support. I am pretty handy with technical stuff - computers, printers, tablets, iCloud, TVs, etc. DH is adorable, but believes the internet is a series of tubes. DH's parents know less, so I end up taking care of their stuff, too. For a long time, this was very stressful and difficult, because while MIL was very grateful and sweet about it, leaving me alone to handle the problem, FIL would stand behind me while I worked on their computer, pacing and fidgeting and grumbling and telling me, "NO! Don't click that!" and "NO! Don't tell them that!" while I tried to convince him that defragging his hard drive wouldn't give the "identity thieves" his bank account information.

Finally, I told my MIL that I was more than willing to continue helping them with their tech support, but in exchange, I had three demands:

1) If FIL was going to continue email correspondence with friends overseas and clicking on links they sent him, I would be allowed to install some sort of internet security program to protect them from the very scary viruses that were infecting their hard drive.

2) MIL would contact me and explain the problems they had with any given device.

3) FIL wouldn't be in the room while I tried to fix the problem.

So far, it's worked out

My dad is very tech savvy, thank goodness, so he takes care of my parents' stuff. I don't know what I would do if I had to take care of my parents' tech, too.