We had visitors and friends for short times and people bring food by, and that is exactly how we wanted it. We lived in a decently sized apartment, but someone staying with us would have been unwelcome.
I was wondering if I was the only one who didn't want much help. My neighbor came over every afternoon so I could shower (I was afraid of falling) and my sister-in-law came over every couple of days to tidy the house a little and play with the baby. Other than that, we did most of the cleaning, I did the laundry and cooking. Pretty much the same with the second birth.
Yes, I was blessed with no complications and was pretty hardy anyway. My friend was almost the have the baby and go work in the fields example.
As a grandmother, I stayed a few days, caught up the housework, did the shopping and some cooking, and was rewarded with getting to hold the babies. For the others, we just visited and that's all anyone really expected. No way would I want to see the births.
Maybe I was too handsoff, but that woman really needs to stand back.