My husband has an ex-girlfriend who is, by all accounts, a "nice" but unstable person with a tendency to stalk. We have friends in common because all three of us attended the same school and church system, though I am 8 years younger than my husband and she is 8 years younger than I am. When my husband and I first started dating, it was clear that she was facebook stalking me through "likes" and comments on mutual friends' photos of me. She also had a tendency to "show up" places where my then boyfriend was, and several times I noticed her lurking outside my house. I had several mutual friends mention to me that she was asking them about me, repeatedly and enough that it caused them to mention it to me. Just weird stuff.
I am a member of a facebook group that is a subgroup for one of my gyms. It is an open group, but there is no reason anyone who is not a member of my gym would have reason to know it exists or want to be involved.....unless they are stalking me and my public activity on facebook. Guess who joined that facebook subgroup, the only person in the group who is not a member at my gym: (oh the suspense!!!!!!!) The ex-GF!!!!!
Obviously I am not going to do anything about this, but I am just itching to "like" that she joined the group or somehow let her know I know what she is doing. As far as I can tell, she is not "friends" with anyone in the group so I can't think of any real way she would even know about it.
The question: is what she did poor techno-quette or is it "okay" becauase it is a public/open facebook group?