Doesn't everyone everywhere start a sit down dinner at a restaurant with the question "Do you know what you're going to order?" or "Do you see anything you like?"
If this lady ordered for herself and is complaining that the date didn't make her choice for her and order for her, but she still ate the food of her choice...why was that letter even considered for print?
And if she sat there foodless while he ate, EVERYONE, including the letter writer, the waiter and the date are at fault because if one checked with her surely the other would. Again, why publish the letter. It seems like more of a joke, with the punch line being something about tattoos.
I wouldn't take this seriously if I were Miss Manners, maybe her letter screeners just thought it was funny.