I think I'll have to have a chat with OH about how it is a special day for me and what I'd like too. His Bah! humbug! attitude could be a bit of a downer for me. (to be fair, he'll do his share of the work, but he won't enjoy it overall. I can't really expect him to change his attitude, there must be reasons he doesn't like it, but hope he can find something about OUR version he'll genuinely like. The only reason he can tell me is that it'salways just a big expense he can't afford.) I guess this is our chance to re-design our Christmases and make them about what we feel is important, instead of what we've had inflicted on us in the past.
Food for thought, indeed.
Your last paragraph sums up what you should look for next Christmas. This Christmas, just go with the flow, and do what you think is right, not what you think that other people think is right.
My DH has mixed feelings about Christmas that extend from his childhood to his first marriage (for that matter, so do I). We are mature adults without kids. For Christmas we might do any number of things, from visiting friends or relatives here or in other areas of the U.S., to staying home, to vacationing in the Caribbean. Sometimes we decorate the whole house, sometimes I just put up a wreath. Sometimes we buy a lot of presents, sometimes we don't. It's not the same thing every time. Except for the food. What DH likes best about the holidays is the food. I always plan some meals trying new and fancy dishes and we enjoy cooking together. I guess that our tradition is the fancy holiday meal.
What do you and your OH enjoy doing together?