A relative of DF's passed away on Wednesday. This relative was a very low-key, "no fuss please" type of person. On his deathbed, he firmly told his family that he did NOT want a funeral.
His two sons have decided not to have a funeral, in the sense that there will be no service, or burial, etc. However, they are throwing a massive wake, and inviting everyone who knew the Deceased.
DF's family is somewhat divided by this. Some relatives (such as DF's parents) consider that the sons are not complying with the spirit of the Deceased's wishes, and that the Deceased would NEVER have wanted an enormous, fancy wake.
However, other relatives (such as DF) believe that if the sons (and their mother, the Deceased's widow) feel the need to have a big wake for the Deceased, they should go ahead and do so, if it would bring them comfort.
What do you guys think? Are the sons being rude, or not?