So DH and I, along with a few friends of mine are not able to visit family this Thanksgiving. Until last week no plans surfaced, so I finally threw out an invite to everyone asking if they'd like to come to my place. Everyone agreed so yesterday I went out and bought all the food for a traditional Thanksgiving dinner. Menu is planned, recipes collected, and I was eagerly waiting for when I could start brining the turkey and making the stock for the gravy.
Just now Friend A sent me a text saying his wife would really rather host Thanksgiving at their place.
But....I have all the stuff! No worries; they generously offered to let me use their kitchen to cook everything.
I responded that I would really rather cook at my place; and offered a compromise of cooking everything at my place, then bringing it over. But Friend A's wife really wants to be part of the cooking! But...all my spices and pots and pans that I know...and I just wasn't comfortable doing that. Also, they live very far away, so Friend B didn't want to drive that far.
At that point Friend A decided it was too complicated, so Friend A's wife (re)agreed to Thanksgiving at my place (I suspect begrudgingly, but who knows), but now I feel like I'm forcing people over to my house to be merry, darn it!
How do you get over this feeling? Was I rude to insist on the original plan? I know it's silly, and I probably could have managed in their kitchen, but I really just didn't want to deal with having to find the spices, making sure I packed all the necessary ingredients up, etc. Fortunately Friend B's objection tipped the scales, but I still feel bad about it.