my mother is driving me up the wall. Ever since we had a baby, we're interesting again, and my parents insist on seeing baby once a month so they can take oodles of pictures of her, treat her like a trophy grandbaby, and then leave us alone for another month. Before we had a baby, we only heard from them about, once a year.
They live about an hour away, and for the first year, they would call to ask when they could visit, drive up to our place, stay half an hour in which they treat baby as a 'thing' to take pictures of (they actually go 'quick take a picture!' whenever she tries to communicate with them, which confuses and upsets her). Then they get mad because baby cries when she sees them, and blame it on the fact that they never see her. Baby smiles at absolutely everybody, just not my parents, because, well, they don't communicate with her, and treat her like an object.
They are also notoriously bad with the agreed upon times. Once, they were supposed to visit at 6. I called them at 6:20, and they were just getting in the car. For an hour drive. And then they got upset when I said baby would be going to bed at 8, and not a minute later.
Last month my mother had surgery. As a result, she cannot come visit. She now wants us to visit them. We did that once, resulting in a very unhappy and upset baby (one hour in car, one hour of pictures, one hour back in car). I honestly do not want to do it again. And even if I wanted to, I don't really see how; baby has to be in bed by 8. Both me and my husband work the week. Even if we left right after work, we'd have to start driving back right away to make it to her bedtime.
I have to repeat this information to my mother every single time she calls. She keeps suggesting weekdays, and keeps acting surprised whenever I mention that 'we work'.
I have half my mind made up to just go with 'sorry, won't be possible' until they can come visit us again. Which, to be honest, I won't like, but at least then I wouldn't have to upset baby's sleeping pattern.
Any ideas on how I could best voice that? My mother has very long toes...