OP here again, sigh...
So, my mom called yesterday. Twice on my voice mail at work, third time when I had just gotten home. Merry Christmas and all that, then she told me that she was mobile again, so they could come visit us. I said great, let me know what works for you guys in January, and we'll go from there. No says mom, we want to see you guys this month. I tell her that won't be possible. We end the call.
What happens a lot of these times, is that mom is sitting next to dad, she hangs up, gets all upset, and he suggests something, and then she'll call me back right away. So sure enough, not 30 seconds later, I get a second call.
mom: How about you guys visit us the 1st of January for new years!
Me: that will not be possible.
Me: we already have plans.
Mom hems and haws a bit, we end the call.
30 seconds pass... third call.
Mom: 'Dad says we'll be coming over the 30th of December!'
Me: (quite short) that will not
Me: Me and DH both work that day.
Mom: Well, till when?
Me: 7:45. Baby goes to bed at 8.
Mom hems and haws, we end the call.
Then today, I get a text.
Mom: Thanks for forgetting about us again on Christmas. We want to see you on new years day, dad too.
(tries not to bang head against nearest wall at this point)
Me: We called yesterday, didn't we? New Years day will not be possible. As said, give a few options in January.
Honestly, I'll see what she suggests now, but she's getting on my nerves. There's this whole 'we have rights as grandparents!' vibe.
So far she suggested two dates in two separate messages, both of which are already blocked in our calendar. I am honestly not making any plans up, but I am not about to suggest a date either, not if she can't follow the simple instruction of giving us a few options at a time! Ugh...
Ok, so mom suggests the 13th, I ok it, ask her for a time... and she suddenly calls me. Starts to insist, again, we come over for new years day. I tell her, again
, that this will not be possible. (I am losing count!) She gets all upset and starts ranting, so I tell her to pass the phone to dad, hoping he'll be calmer. Vain hope
He starts demanding we come over, because we never take the effort to visit and I should respect my mom more and he knows I've been visiting my sister and I better not deny it, so pretty soon we're both going off (argh...) and I try to take control back by asking of they're going to come the 13th or not, take it or leave it. He says they'll come, but he'll be very much excepting that after that one, I'll put the effort in to come visit them in return. (I have to take a deep breath). I reply that this will not be for the immediate future, since we have holidays and the move to the house coming up. We decide on a visiting time for the 13th, and we end the call.
... honestly! *goes to cool off a bit*