DH's aunt passed away in September of this year. This aunt was married to his Dad's brother. (Both his father and uncle are also deceased). Aunt and uncle have 3 grown daughters.
As a child, the two families lived in different states, but spent summer vacations together and he has many happy memories of this. As adults he's stayed in touch with the 3 cousins (who are all now scattered across the US) - he attended weddings, visited them when he was in their respective areas, etc.
One of his cousins I have met a couple of times - once when we were traveling through the UK (where she lived at the time) and we stayed with her, another time when we were moving from one state to another and stayed overnight with her (after she moved back to the US), and again at our wedding. Cousin #2 I met at our wedding, along with is aunt. Cousin #3 I have never met.
Other than the in-person meetings we really don't stay in touch other than Christmas cards. We don't e-mail and they are not on Facebook.
We were surprised to hear of aunt's passing as she had been ill for a couple of years and we weren't really aware of this. One of the cousins called his Mother In Law, who then called DH. Aunt lived about 8 hours from us - but we were out of town at the time and could not make it back for the funeral. (We found out about her passing on a Friday and services were on Sunday. Had we been in town we absolutely would have gone).
A couple of weeks after her passing DH bought sympathy cards for his cousins. However, he has not sent them. Despite my reminding him several times. I offered to send them for him and he said no, he wanted to do it. It's his family so I decided to let him handle it.
It's been 3 months and I feel really bad about this. I am going to be sending Christmas cards out in the next day or so and will send them one. Should I enclose a note? DH thought we could send them together. Is this an ok idea? Had I known he would delay this long I would have sent them. I don't know the cousins too well but I've certainly met them and they are very nice people. While I don't see us being as close as the families were when DH was growing up, I do want to maintain a relationship with them.
Any thoughts or advice?