:BG: One of my best friends (Jenny) has a much older half-sister, Claire. Claire is about 15 years older than us and for lack of a better phrase is a 'few cards short of a deck' (Jenny's words not mine). Claire and Jenny were never close until about 4 years ago when they reconnected. Claire lives 3 hours away.
I was the maid of honor in Jenny's wedding. Jenny mentioned that Claire was mad she was not the MOH but Jenny knew Claire could not handle the responsibility.
Claire was HORRIBLE towards me through out the wedding planning process. She was over all incredibly rude, lied about some things, sent nasty emails to the maids, etc. I remained civil towards her but engaged her only when necessary after the first few instances. I did mention a few instances to Jenny when I felt it was necessary (basically to save myself from possibly looking bad) but I didn't tell her everything. Jenny did apologize about Claire's behavior and said that she knew Claire had a bad lieing problem, etc. Claire was also pretty bad towards Jenny and the other 'maids towards the end of things as well. At the bachelorette party Claire called one of the maids "a 'ducking' idiot" to her face when she accidentally lead the group to the wrong parking lot after leaving the beach. (The cars were 1 lot over, a 2 minute walk, so not a huge deal.) The other maids were afraid of her and had issues with Claire as well but not as bad as me. But we got through the wedding fine and that was that.
Every year, a few weekends before Christmas, I host a huge holiday party for all my friends and family - dress up, good food, fun drinks, etc. It's a big deal for my group.
I just got an email from Jenny telling me that Claire will be in town that weekend staying with her and wanted to know if it was okay for Claire to come to my holiday party. I love Jenny but there is no way in hades I am allowing Claire in my home for this event which means so much to me.
(Many of the maids from Jenny's wedding will be at the party as well, in case this may matter.)
If people think I am being unreasonable please let me know. Otherwise can I please have some help with what to say to respond to Jenny? I do not want to jeopardize my relationship with Jenny but quite frankly I don't want Claire in my home.