The pitching in thread kind of reminded me of this...
Matriarch loves Thanksgiving; she is a great cook and enjoys having her family over for the holidays. Matriarch likes to make sure everyone enjoys the meal and has plenty to eat. For example, one family does not like turkey and one family has special dietary restrictions – let's say vegetarian. Thanksgiving at Matriarch's house always has three main dishes – turkey, another meat, and a vegetarian dish. Over time, it has become obvious that as the family has grown, cooking for that many people is overwhelming and stressful, especially since Patriarch is in ill health and can't help out much.
Over the past few years, this situation has lead to various families bringing in dishes so Matriarch doesn't have to spend all her time in the kitchen. This year, Family A brought a meat main dish, one side dish and one dessert. Family B brought two side dishes and two desserts. Family C brought one side dish and Family D brought one dessert. Family F, however, brought nothing.
Family F is the largest family and are the vegetarians. I also did not see anyone in Family F help out in the kitchen or during clean up.
One of the adults in Family F mentioned that they didn't bring anything because Matriarch already had all the food covered. I think Family F should have offered to bring a dish when discussing holiday plans with Matriarch. (Note: Family F has offered and provided a vegetarian main dish in the past.)
Matriarch probably doesn't care, and even if she did, she would never say anything. I'm trying not to think unkind things about Family F but the whole thing just rubbed me the wrong way and I feel that they should have done more to help out.
So was Family F rude or am I just being overly judgmental?