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Tea Drinker

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Re: When is the right time to ask someone?
« Reply #30 on: January 07, 2014, 07:38:38 PM »
It sounds as though the age 70 thing isn't a hard deadline, and it would be fine with all concerned if your father-in-law moved in with you when he was 71 or 73 years old, instead of 70 and a half. So while it sounds like it would be a good idea, in terms of the family relationships and your own stress, for you and your husband to tell him what's going on as soon as possible, meaning over the phone, there's no need to him to move when you do. That's worth mentioning if he starts talking about this being a huge step and very sudden.
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Re: When is the right time to ask someone?
« Reply #31 on: January 07, 2014, 08:38:54 PM »
Yeah, after reading your update, you probably should tell him right away.  This will even give him some time during his vacation to think about what he wants to do and talk with friends about it.  It doesn't sound like he needs to be in a major rush to get packed up now unless the sale of his home factors into your new home purchase that can accommodate your family.

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Re: When is the right time to ask someone?
« Reply #32 on: January 07, 2014, 09:39:19 PM »
Yep, another vote here for "tell your FIL right away."

Slightly off-topic, but is there a need to actually sell your house? Why not rent it out for a few months, and rent a place in your new hometown? That buys you some time, until you, your husband and FIL decide whether he'll move in with you in your new province.

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Re: When is the right time to ask someone?
« Reply #33 on: January 07, 2014, 10:56:07 PM »
This is a big decision for everyone concerned with many decisions and a lot of planning ahead. You need to know what to consider in buying or renting a home in your new province. Just tell him; he's an adult, and he'll handle this. You have enough to worry about.

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Re: When is the right time to ask someone?
« Reply #34 on: January 08, 2014, 09:33:14 AM »
Is your FIL a "planner" or a "go with the flow-er" ?  If  a planner, give him a heads up.

"Dad, we just wanted to let you know we have been hearing some rumblings about DH probably going to be relocated soon.    We wanted you to have a heads up.    Also we are still planning that you are moving with us.  You don't have to do anything now, but we may be starting some preparation.  Enjoy your vacation and we will talk when you get back."