I just emailed the kids (25, 28 and 29) asking what their plans are. There are more of them than there are of DH and I, and they're all in solid relationships with men with families, so I need to take their plans into account. Plus, DH is a borderline (not so borderline...) hoarder, so cleaning the house to be company ready takes TIME and he is a procrastinator and wants it done the morning of. Last year, DD#2 offered up her SIL and BIL's house, but DH wouldn't commit to driving that far. So, I went without him, and had a nice time, but I'd rather have him with me for dinner. If we need to get a cleaning service in to clean the house, then we need time to have it done. If we're going elsewhere for Thanksgiving, we need (I need) time to talk DH into going along with the plans. DH is difficult, but I want a nice day, cuss it all to tarnation!
Christmas is at our house, well after breakfast. Cleaning will have to be done by then anyway, so all my angst is for Thanksgiving.