I need an EH-approved way of saying the subject heading to a person who is making me hate the sport I play for fun.
I captain a rec-level sports team. I took over the team when the previous captain had to quit playing. Another member of the team is more or less my co-captain, and has been since I took over two years ago. On weeks where I can't be there, "James" takes care of the captain duties. We have no problem with this arrangement, and it has worked well.
When a player moved and had to quit, we asked "Luke" to join the team. Since he joined, he has decided that he is in charge, and has undermined me on several occasions. For example, I can say in an e-mail that I need everyone there and ready to play at 7:30. He'll respond by saying that everyone needs to be there at 7:15. If James gives a certain line-up, he'll respond by telling everyone to do something else. Luke also has a tendency to talk to me like I'm an overly emotional five year old - which is pretty much the surest way to get me to snap. I nearly bit through my tongue last game.
His most recent stunt is one that could get us in trouble with the league and cause us to have to forfeit games. James and I are in full agreement that we are only to call on subs - and even then, only subs we have on our roster - when we are missing players. One of the rules of the league is that all players have to be on the roster, and using non-rostered subs, if caught, can lead to forfeiture of games. In the past, we have had issues with other teammates wanting to bring in subs so we can have extra players. However, James and I both strongly feel that top priority should be given to those who actually paid to play, and subs are only in situtations where they are needed. On this week's game reminder e-mail, there was one person who said she most likely wouldn't be there, leaving us with exactly enough people to play. Luke responded by saying that he could get someone else there so we could have extra players there that night. Since he does not have contact with our regular subs, this would be someone non-roster - as well as someone who hasn't paid and would be taking playing time away from those of us who did.
While I am fine with shutting this down - I have made it very clear that we don't need a sub - it's a prime example of how Luke has steamrolled over James and myself. Since I'm the official captain of record, it is my job to deal with the situation. Any e-hell approved suggestions on how I can politely tell him "Shut up, play ball, and talk to either myself or James after the game/e-mail us if you have any questions or suggestions"?