So I just thought I would let you guys know what happened. My friend and I, and her DH, met at the restaurant and had a good time. I brought the cookies and the homemade cards, and she did not bring me anything (whew!) but did pick up the check for everyone. I couldn't tell if she had always planned to get the check, or did it as a reaction to me bringing her something, or what. Anyway, we had a good time catching up, and I really wish we could stay in touch with each other better during the rest of the year. Maybe I will give another shot to long-distance communication with her and see if she's willing to put effort into it as well. Thanks for all your advice!