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Margo is a wonderful hostess. She would always print out lovely invitations to her dinner parties and address them, and then follow up with a phone call a couple of days later to check that I received it. Plus she allowed for phone call/text RSVP, or even through Facebook messages. So nice and convenient. I love her parties too, since she is an excellent cook and requires you to specifically NOT BRING any food to her house (great, since I simply cannot cook). Her dinners start early for mingling, wine and finger foods, followed by the sit down, four course meal and more wine, followed by cognac, coffee and dessert. All in all, it is a typically 5 hour event with loads of lovely food and wine.
Her parties are ALWAYS adult-only. She has crystals on display everywhere in the house, with expensive art hanging on the walls, velvet upholstery and silk cushions. It is clearly not a toddler-friendly house.
She had a dinner party last week. Now, I am a new mom and the hours were too long for me (with engorgement and all) so I had called Margo to let her know my regrets. However, she kindly told me that I was very welcomed to "eat and run" and my presence would be much appreciated! So the arrangement was for me to come 15 mins before dinner, and leave 20 mins after.
I arrived at our appointed time. This is where the story begins.
I arrived at Margo's home, handed her a gift and walked in. There were 9 others. Two were children o.O
Claudia, another guest, had brought her two kids. One is 4, the other is 6. Claudia is a lovely lady, but she can be quite oblivious to what is acceptable vs what isn't! As chit chat went on, Claudia said something like "I hope it isn't too much trouble, James and John are always so well behaved!" Margo replied "I am sure they are. What a surprise that you came, I really wasn't expecting you at all!"
Now, this made it VERY clear that Claudia had not RSVPed. (Was it rude of Margo to point it out to everyone?). The conversation reignited at dinnertime. It was obvious that the table had been arranged for 8 ppl. As we walked to the table, Margo said, "Oh please wait a moment. I wasn't expecting to have 10 guests instead of 7. Then she set separate dinner placings at the table for John and James and Claudia. (Again, quite this made it clear that Claudia and her boys had crashed the party. Was this rude?)
James and John were served the salad and soup appys with everyone else, but when the main course of Salmon came, they were given a plate each of tuna sandwiches. Claudia suddenly spoke up. "Oh, my boys usually eat a proper meal for their main! Would you mind?" I honestly was quite shocked by Claudia's boldness, but Margo didn't even skip a beat. She said "Oh dear, I am sorry, I didn't know. And proceeded to take CLAUDIA's salmon dish into the kitchen with James and John's sandwiches. Everyone looked surprised. Margo emerged 5 mins later with the salmon portioned into two plastic plates, and the tuna sandwiches on the china dinner plate. Guess who got what :O (was this rude of Margo?)
Margo was cheerful and very friendly as she went, "Here you go. Okay let's continue with dinner!" And filled up our wine glasses and chitchat as though nothing strange had happened. We went on happily until dessert. Then Claudia suddenly said, "How come Nemesis got a full dinner when I had arrived before her?" Everyone turned to look at her and me. Before I could reply, Margo cheerfully said, "Oh, I was expecting Nemesis." Then she changed the topic very quickly.
I made my excuses to the dinner party about 10 mins later.
Now bear in mind, Margo managed to do all that while smiling and remaining absolutely friendly. There was no trace of sarcasm in her voice, or any sharp tone whatsoever. James and John were exceptionally well behaved children, though the younger boy had fallen asleep at the dinner table after two bites of salmon which Claudia proceeded to finish. Claudia looked uncomfortable, but she didn't get angry. And the rest of us mingled well without any problems other than those few incidents above,
I know, you know and everyone knows that Claudia was rude. Was Margo?
Was Margo wrong? What would you have done differently?
(Cookies to those who made it through the entire story)
Edited to add : I do not know if Claudia had done this to Margo before. But at one mutual friend's home where I had arrived first, the boys had greeted the hostess so sweetly and politely when the door was opened. They were all dressed up and looked angelic. The hostess privately told me later on that she would have turned Claudia away if she had arrived alone, but she just couldn't do it when two cute boys were smiling so sweetly and expectedly at her. Maybe the same thing happened when Margo opened the door.