I have been dealing with an injury that may be a permanent disability. It comes and goes now, but generally, there are things I can't do. People get MAD AT ME because I say I can't go somewhere or do something that I, uh, just can't manage because it will HURT and may disable me for a few days, and I cannot let that happen if I can prevent it. People also forget entirely about the problem, no matter how often they are reminded. Things are supposed to instantaneously get better, I guess. That things can take months or years and a lot of work and pain to get over, well, it doesn't occur. It also does not occur to people who have never been disabled that it isn't something you can just "throw off" and that it somehow doesn't hurt, and that pain isn't, you know, painful, and therefore no fun at all. That limits are limits, and ability isn't an all or nothing thing. Yes, I can go to the museum opening. No, I can't go to dinner afterwards. Cannot do both. Why is this not comprehensible? But -- it doesn't seem to be.
All of these may apply, but these women were rude and inconsiderate in addition to all that.