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Re: Is there a polite way to express disbelief? (first example)
« Reply #15 on: December 24, 2013, 07:51:07 AM »
Based on the facts in the OP, I'd be inclined to leave the matter alone ... unless:

--  The fibs injure another person's reputation, or hurt others in any way, or

--  The story is hateful (e.g., bigoted) in some way, or

--  The storyteller's always been known for scrupulous honesty and attention to detail, in which case I may be concerned about the person's well-being.

As for what I'd do about any of the above, well, I must cop out with, "It depends."

Agreed. I'd let it go in this instance with a mental note that Adam might like to tell the odd tall tale.
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Re: Is there a polite way to express disbelief? (first example)
« Reply #16 on: December 25, 2013, 06:40:32 AM »
In Adam's case, I wouldn't say anything.  His story is just a story.  It does no harm to anyone. 

Of course, children should not be encouraged to lie.  They should however, be taught how to take some stories with a bit of healthy doubt.

I would express disbelief if a statement was bigoted or patently untrue.  I would also speak up if a statement was potentially dangerous in other ways.  For example, we did express disbelief when a relative announced that she could get all the protein she needs by eating a head of iceberg lettuce a day.