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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #15 on: December 26, 2013, 11:04:54 PM »
I think family friend was being intrusive to say the least. But, she did do you a favor-now you know that you probably don't ever want to invite her along. If she's willing to stir the pot over something that doesn't involve her at all, she will almost certainly cause trouble if she is actually included.

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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #16 on: December 27, 2013, 02:51:01 PM »
I'd have far preferred being left with family/friends than being dragged to meet a stranger.  Don't worry about it.

This.  Personally, I'm fine with being left alone for a time.  One inning is perfect!  You can leave your seat, have a good visit, and return with minimal fuss.

"Friend" obviously likes to stir up drama.  Must miss out on a lot of fun that way!

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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #17 on: December 27, 2013, 04:50:05 PM »
I agree with PPs, except I think a case can be made that friend *is* a special snowflake.  She took a situation that had nothing to do with her, and made it all about her. 

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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #18 on: December 27, 2013, 05:16:41 PM »
Even if OP and aunt had been alone, I don't think it would have been rude. Per the OP the aunt bought a ticket herself - the OP wasn't hosting her.
 
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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #19 on: December 27, 2013, 05:30:53 PM »
What a ridiculous thing to get into a twist over.  Seems your family friend is intent on starting drama where there is none.  I agree with everyone above who said you were fine.

If you were hosting your aunt, had left her alone among strangers or at an event where she had no idea what was going on (like, say, if someone were to take me to a cricket match) or any combination of those factors, I might think you were rude, but none of them apply,  Your aunt chose to buy the ticket (she was not your guest and is a baseball fan) and she was with people she knew.  There's no issue here except the one your family friend is trying to create.
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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #20 on: December 28, 2013, 01:58:18 AM »
My mom and I go to about 8 baseball games a year together, back in my hometown.  I now live about 3 hours away, and often find out about friends attending the same game on Facebook.  She'd much rather stay at our seats watching the game than wander the stadium with me to meet up with people who for her are acquaintances at best.

I think, maybe, if you're with someone who isn't into baseball enough to be entertained by the game itself, it would be rude to leave them alone for long (and in that case they might be more willing to come along and meet strangers), but a baseball game can be a long event.  I know that we often get to to the stadium 1-2 hours before the game to watch batting practice and warmups, once you add the time of the game to that you can be at the stadium for about 5 hours.  Stepping away for 15-30 minutes to meet with some friends doesn't seem excessive.

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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #21 on: December 28, 2013, 03:03:48 AM »
"Well your Aunt might not mind, but if I go to a game with you, you had better not leaving me sitting there while you go off drinking with friends ."


Your response should have been " Don't worry , that will never happen ."
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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #22 on: December 28, 2013, 06:01:35 AM »
I utterly hate it when the person I'm with runs off to socialise with someone I don't know... and I would have been fine in your aunt's shoes, because she was with a group of friends and family having a good time. The person who told you off is making several interesting assumptions (that your aunt was unhappy, that you'd cheerfully ditch someone alone, that you'd invite HER out) and frankly sounds kinda annoying. :P
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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #23 on: December 28, 2013, 07:51:39 AM »
This is why I like the Facebook options where you can limit someone from seeing your news feed.
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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #24 on: December 28, 2013, 10:55:05 AM »
You were fine.  Had I been with you,I would not have minded one bit, regardless of whether there are other people I know around me or not.  I don't need to be babysat when out at a game/movie/concert, and it sounds like your aunt rolls similarly.    8)  There have been people in my life who were "needier", and I always have taken their preferences into consideration, but those who need more "tending to" are not people I want to go with regularly to outings.

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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #25 on: December 28, 2013, 12:53:23 PM »
I think family friend was being intrusive to say the least. But, she did do you a favor-now you know that you probably don't ever want to invite her along. If she's willing to stir the pot over something that doesn't involve her at all, she will almost certainly cause trouble if she is actually included.

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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #26 on: December 28, 2013, 09:49:54 PM »
Sounds like a busybody who may possibly have been fishing for an invite. Also, a friend buying you a beer is hardly "going off drinking" which has negative implications of excess.

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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #27 on: December 28, 2013, 09:58:10 PM »
I utterly hate it when the person I'm with runs off to socialise with someone I don't know... and I would have been fine in your aunt's shoes, because she was with a group of friends and family having a good time. The person who told you off is making several interesting assumptions (that your aunt was unhappy, that you'd cheerfully ditch someone alone, that you'd invite HER out) and frankly sounds kinda annoying. :P

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Was a bit puzzled by a couple of previous posters who said that aunt paying for her own ticket was the reason it was ok to leave. My understanding is even if you (general)  go to the cinema together with a friend and each pay for your own ticket, leaving the friend alone would be ditching them. It doesn't matter that you're not the host. Obviously didn't happen here because aunt had company but was confused by the point PPs were making. Maybe I've misread and just need more coffee.  :)

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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #28 on: December 29, 2013, 01:47:09 AM »
Goodness, it can take that long to buy something at the concession stands or to get into the bathroom. You wouldn't drag her along on either of those errands (well, maybe to the concession stands, to help carry snacks if it were a large group). I don't see this as being any different than running across your friend and chatting for a bit while walking through the concession area.

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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #29 on: December 29, 2013, 02:35:18 PM »

I agree with everyone here, and if the family friend brings it up again - she certainly seems the type - I'd recommend a classic Calvin Coolidge-style two word answer.

"Well your Aunt might not mind, but if I go to a game with you,

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