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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #30 on: December 29, 2013, 05:08:52 PM »
I utterly hate it when the person I'm with runs off to socialise with someone I don't know... and I would have been fine in your aunt's shoes, because she was with a group of friends and family having a good time. The person who told you off is making several interesting assumptions (that your aunt was unhappy, that you'd cheerfully ditch someone alone, that you'd invite HER out) and frankly sounds kinda annoying. :P

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Was a bit puzzled by a couple of previous posters who said that aunt paying for her own ticket was the reason it was ok to leave. My understanding is even if you (general)  go to the cinema together with a friend and each pay for your own ticket, leaving the friend alone would be ditching them. It doesn't matter that you're not the host. Obviously didn't happen here because aunt had company but was confused by the point PPs were making. Maybe I've misread and just need more coffee.  :)

I think I might have misunderstood the OP. When I said it was okay because the aunt paid her own way my assumption wasn't that the two went to the ball game together, but that they just happened to go to the same game and just happened to sit together. It's a slight semantic difference, that I don't know if I managed to explain in a wayt hat made any sense at all ;)
 
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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #31 on: December 29, 2013, 09:20:06 PM »
I can imagine the opposite....Aunt getting annoyed to go meet someone and missing the game from the good seats!  I think you did the right thing in meeting your friend.  I am not sure if your family member realizes how much moving around is sort of built into stadiums these days...there are so many places besides your actual seats to hang out.

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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #32 on: December 29, 2013, 09:27:03 PM »
I agree with bopper.  I never get up and go wandering during the game.  Never, never.  I settle in with my scorepad and my pencils and nothing moves me until the last pitch.  I would much prefer you go visit friends and leave me in the seats!  I don't see that you did ANYTHING wrong.  Friend needs to MHOB.

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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #33 on: December 29, 2013, 10:58:36 PM »
I think you were 100% fine.

I think there would be a point at which it might get rude, even if a crowd was there to entertain Aunt. Case in point, a friend of mine had a birthday party the other night at a bar.  About 10 or so of us were there.  For the entire first 2 hours, a friend we will call Jane walked around the bar and socialized with random friends of hers that just happened to be there (not part of the party).  Two hours.  She finally came to our table as my husband and I were leaving.  It wasn't my party so I don't technically have a dog in the fight but DH and I both agreed later privately that she was quite rude.  She was there with a particular group of people.  Knowing other people does not make it ok to ditch the people you came with and agreed to spend time with for TWO HOURS.  Again, you were fine, but I think the amount of time definitely matters.

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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #34 on: December 30, 2013, 03:05:59 PM »
Goodness, it can take that long to buy something at the concession stands or to get into the bathroom. You wouldn't drag her along on either of those errands (well, maybe to the concession stands, to help carry snacks if it were a large group). I don't see this as being any different than running across your friend and chatting for a bit while walking through the concession area.

I was thinking that, too. I like wandering around the stadium a little bit, but being taken up to the upper levels while the game was going to meet some stranger would just be weird. 
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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #35 on: December 30, 2013, 03:41:31 PM »

You were fine -

Due to the nature of my Dad's business he was often "on the job" when we went to games/rodeo (actually he was 100% on the job at the rodeo even sis and I were on the job  we supervised all the kids in the boss's wagon during the grand opening). I've had both happen - been taken to meet people, sit and watch the game while he networked, and 3rd was off on my own exploring the Astrodome (Seriously Sis and I could tell you were the different snacks were available, nearest restroom, but way to X, explain how they switched between football field and baseball field (adults would argue that they were in two seperate buildings  :o )


I HATED standing around meeting people. That mostly happened when I was helping Dad get snacks. He usually took the beers and sent us back to the seats with our drinks and the food. Mom would ask where he was and go get her beer from him and come back to the seats. (Mom was a sports fan so she didn't mind) 
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Re: Take Me Out to the Ball Game - Rude?
« Reply #36 on: December 30, 2013, 03:41:58 PM »
My cousin had something similar happen to her, and in her case, it WAS rude. Her ex BF had partial season tickets to their favorite major league team. So the tickets were his, but they would always go together. One day they're at a game, and he says he's going to go say hello to a friend sitting elsewhere, who cousin couldn't stand. She was fine with him going to say hi, but apparently he stayed, had a beer and was gone for more than an hour, leaving her alone.

Even though I couldn't stand her ex, I thought it was rude on his part. To make matters worse, they had to clear the stadium due to t-storms, while he was off "visiting" and he wasn't answering his phone, and she had no clue where he was. Plus he had the car keys so she couldn't have left (which she said she wanted to do) even if she wanted to! 

But a quick pop by to see someone, say hi, and then come back, esp when Aunt had others she could socialize with, is fine.