So we're having a New Year's Eve party. And we decided this year to make it a little on the fancier side, and also to make it 18 and up as well. Usually when we have any kind of party we're ok with kids coming. Heck some days I'd rather deal with the kids then with the adults. But this time, we decided, grown ups only. We acknowledged that this may mean some of our friends won't make it, especially those who have just recently had kids. That's fine, we understand completely, we'll see you some other time!
For the most part, this has gone over just fine. Kelly (I've talked about her a lot) called to RSVP for her and her husband and told me she was excitied to have a night out without her son, one of my other friends called with her regrets, they're doing a family thing. Totally fine. And then there was...Amanda.
Amanda has two kids, 9 and 8, she's in town visiting her mom for the holidays. Her mom also got an invite and she's coming to the party. Several people have offered to babysit the kids, but all want to be paid and she doesn't want to pay. She can't believe I won't bend on this! Her kids are like Kelly's son whose an infant. They're well behaved! And she's right, they really are. Quiet, sweet, helpful, great kids really. They still aren't invited. I'm not budging.
Well according to my mom, Amanda mentioned to her mother that she might just show up with the kids anyways. After all, Glitter likes the kids and won't want to hurt their feelings.
The sucky part is, she's right. They're old enough to understand when they aren't welcomed, and I don't want to hurt them. I feel like Amanda is playing to my weaknesses. I have no problem tossing out an adult, or telling an adult they aren't invited. But two kids? Two really nice kids? Because their mother dragged them along? I'll fold faster then a cheap suit and she knows it. It's not their fault their mom is a rude boor.
Of course right now my mom and her mom are working double time to explain to her that is unacceptable, and rather mean. If she doesn't want to leave the kids, then she shouldn't attend the party. She shouldn't "trick" me into allowing her kids to attend.
Frankly, I've been the only kid at an adult party (invited kid), and its freaking boring. I feel bad for them getting dragged along.
So, ehellions, how do I turn away kids at the party? Of course I'll turn Amanda away as well. I wouldn't expect the kids to find their own way home. Or if they show up, do I set them up upstairs with a movie and some snacks?