So, a full how the party went up date is in order, yes? Alright, it'll probably be a bit long, get some coco or apple cider and settle in. Everyone settled? Okay, here we go! (I'm in an odd mood today)
First things first, Amanda arrived around 3 to drop off her cake (and I spent the next five hours resisting eating it), she did have her daughter with her but only because daughter had a present for me and Partner that was, in her words, "Time sensitive", she'd also baked cookies she wanted to share with the party. Aw, sweet little girl. They stayed about 45 minutes, mostly daughter telling me about school, and then they were on their way.
So as I'm getting things ready for the party I get a text from a friend double checking the time, and if there's anything I'd like her to bring and then...can she bring four people with her?
No. Usually our parties are the more the merrier, but this party was a little different and I didn't feel up to hosting more people then what I'd invited. Which is what I told her point blank. She said that was fine, she just had to ask. No, you did not just "have to ask", you thought I'd say yes because people think I'm a people pleaser since I'm generally nice and easy going and that I'd back down and say yes. Didn't happen. And no, she didn't bring the uninvited guests anyways, she's way smarter then that. I used to be a bouncer, I can kick people out like nobody's business (expect children, they're so cute!).
Then I text one of "Sure I'll make I think, maybe, but I'll totally be there if I can" people. Yes or No. Saying "No I can't make it" won't hurt my feelings. I get "Yes, but could you come and get me?", could I come and...what? How will you get home? No never mind, no I'm not coming to get you, no I'm not sending Partner or one of my other guests to come get you. Our city ran all public transportation until 2am for free, which I told her about and that it was up to her if she wanted to come. She said she'd "let me know", she never came, never called, never texted. I got a text from her this morning apologizing for not coming.
So the party starts at 8 and people start showing up, we've got drinks, we've got food, we've got karokee and games. Tons of fun was being had by all. Then another friend comes by, with this guy she's kind of being seeing. I don't know him, I've never met him before, and when I opened the door he greeted me with "Where's the beer?", at your house I assume. I just said "And who are you?" at which point my friend speaks up "This is John, remember I told you were kind of seeing each other. He wasn't ok with me going to a party without him on New Year's Eve so I brought him a long" at this point John is already inside the house and asking if we have better food. Remembering the last time I kept breathing and letting someone stay too long (The Brunch Guest), I pulled my friend off to the side and said "There must have been a miscommunication, John wasn't invited and I don't know him. I'm not comfortable with him in my house tonight so you two will need to be on your way", she stammers something about not wanting to be alone on New Year's to which I respond "You don't have to be alone, you two can be together, just not here" she called me an uptight female dog and stormed out with John in tow. She started texting her apologizes yesterday but I've ignored them for the most part. This isn't a friendship I want to salvage, this isn't the first time she's done something she knows is wrong and then begged for forgiveness. So I'm done.
The rest of the party was fantastic! At one point Amanda told me she was having blast and was glad to have a kid-free night. Of course there still managed to be too much food so we've been eating the leftovers yesterday and today. And I'm very glad we decided to hiring this lovely cleaning lady, she's coming tomorrow to give the house a good deep cleaning.