*ALWAYS* bring The Sweetie along when visiting Dad's wife, who is extremely opinionated without much fact backing her up.
Dad said with admiration after the visit, "[The Sweetie] is the first person I've ever seen who could argue [Wife] to a standstill!"
Example: Dad mentioned that he had donated to a food bank. This is a paraphrase of what happened next:
Wife: I'm so TIRED of you talking about hungry children! There aren't hungry children in America! Because all the poor people are obese.
The Sweetie: Where do you get your statistics from?
Wife: I see fat children in the supermarket all the time.
The Sweetie: Do you know for a fact that all those kids are poor?
Wife: Well, their mothers yell at them.
The Sweetie: That means they're not being brought up well. What makes you think there aren't hungry children in America?
Wife: I see obese children all the time. They might not be eating balanced meals, but they're eating.
The Sweetie: So you notice obese children. What makes you think there aren't hungry children?
Wife: Children just don't eat right these days!
(I was watching in awe. Dad was facepalming. They went a few more rounds before declaring a deadlock.)
Dad's wife is welcome to come to my school. See my students who lick their school trays clean at breakfast and lunch. New federal regs to combat obesity means our lunch ladies can't slip the kids we know are hungry extra food. It will put them over the calorie count set by federal law.
Send her on a Friday so she can see them carry their Lunches of Love sack breakfasts and lunches home for the weekend with the utmost care. Or Drive by tomorrow at I think 11:30 to see the line of kids waiting for the Lunches of Love van to bring them tomorrows lunch, and Wednesday's breakfast. It is supposed to be in the low 50's they will be in shorts, some jeans, short sleeves, and cotton hoodies. Some are overweight not because always because they eat junk - but in many cases because their parents buy foods that fill the belly for cents on the dollar, but aren't the most healthy choices. We used to have a parenting class that helped with that, but budget cuts.
She should see what they look like when they try to run in shoes so small that their toes are folded over like in foot binding (coach keeps an eye out for that type of gait and gives them new shoes and socks. I went to BOGO sale and got 10 pair for her) Oh and their pants run from Steve Urkle to them slipping in my room instead of going to the gym in the morning, so I can zip tie their pants so they don't drop off their bodies. I take in the pants that way and snip off the edges of the zip ties. Then they can manage the belt to keep their pants up. (They take what they can get from clothing drives) The little guy in my class, is 1/2 the size of his next biggest brother and no one gets new clothes.
Some of their parents made bad choices, others got hurt and didn't have insurance, other's lost their jobs and have no education to get another. WHatever the cause the kid don't deserve to have to pay.
Thank Sweetie for me from my kids.