BG: my awesome oldest sis is 13 years my senior ---- she babsysat me as a baby, changed my diapers, the whole nine yards. Needless to say, she takes her role as Oldest Sibling pretty seriously. She's the advice giver, not the advice taker!
She retired really early (at age 43) and since then has lost her closest friend, who died, and then she moved away from her well-established community of friends for the sake of her husband's health. Although she's tried hard, she's had limited success where she is now making close friends. Some of those she has made have disappointed her, and she resolves, this coming year, to widen her circle of friends in search of more compatible people and deeper relationships.
The thing is, I can see some ways she's getting in her own way. I believe if she were to reframe some of her ways of approaching things, she could be much happier (she is pretty depressed now and it hurts my heart to hear her trying to deal with it).
Well, if I suggested any of my ideas to her directly, she'd just take it as criticism and, because I'm "her baby sister," it wouldn't mean much to her anyway. BUT! I've written professionally ---- what if I wrote my advice in the form of a "magazine article", under a fake name, and sent it to her with "hey, remember what we were talking about? This looked interesting to me regarding that. What do you think?" (I've also told her I'm interested in meeting new people, so it would be plausible I'd be reading something along those lines).
Good work around? Or too nefarious?