I do an open house this time of year where I provide a great deal of food, wine, beer and good tidings. It is a casual affair, drop in style.
Sally is invited every year with her husband. She is a very nice person and takes it upon herself to wash my wine glasses as people leave. Normally, it would be a nice gesture, right? The problem I have is she uses an abrasive scrubby I use to clean the top of my glass top stove, so it is very dirty. She doesn't ask, she just grabs it and starts cleaning. This year, I hid it under other supplies and she still found it while there was a clean rag within site. I thought hiding it would the situation.
I am very anal about using clean cloths to wash dishes. In fact, I usually use a clean, wet paper towel to do it so I don't have to constantly wash rags. I would never wash dishes with a cloth that has wiped the counter or sink.
Of course, the glasses are not clean because she has been using a very dirty scrubber and I assume this also scratches my glasses. I always tell her it isn't necessary to wash the glasses, but she insists. After she leaves, I put the glasses in the dishwasher.
Not really a bit deal, but wonder if someone offers this gesture, wouldn't it be proper for them to enquire what cleaning apparatus to use? Luckily, I don't use my crystal glasses for this event. If I did and she used the abrasive scrubby on them, they would be ruined.
What can I say to someone who is providing a kind gesture that isn't wanted? The scrubbing with an abrasive pad scratches them which in turn leaves grooves that prevent them from getting entirely clean, thus reducing the life of the glasses.