Lists, lists and more lists! I structured my whole week around these.
I borrowed every crockpot that I could from the neighbors and slow-cooked 6 pork roasts for pulled pork. I did that about a week ahead and froze the pork as I went. I thawed it that morning and put it and the juice (refrigerated separately and skimmed) in a large electric roaster about 2 hours before dinner.
Two days before, I roasted two turkeys, sliced them and made gravy. Everything into the frig until 2 hours ahead, then also into an electric roaster to heat up.
Potato salad and cole slaw made up in the days ahead. I took the bottom drawers out of the refrigerator and stacked the containers. I made the slaw dressing myself but bought the bagged cabbage mix, MUCH easier.
Bride's family did beef brisket, macaroni salad, jello salad and baked beans and provided all the buns and condiments etc.
Served buffet style, with cake for dessert of course! We set up the food in the kitchen, with the tables and chairs outside. The weather cooperated, thank deity.
I borrowed some of the big 5 gallon drink coolers, the kind with the spigot, for tea and lemonade.
Beer and soda by the case, iced in coolers the day of. Plus some other assorted adult beverages
All disposable plates, cutlery and cups and tablecloths.