DH and I went to a wedding on Sunday. The groom is a work colleague of DH's, and neither of us had met the bride before. We're any of these violations of etiquette?
The bride's sister MC-ed the reception, and performed a rap to 'Ice, ice, baby' that went for at least 4 minutes. Mercifully, the sound wasn't good and we couldn't hear much of the words, but I gathered that it was mostly about the bride's wedding ring. It was really cringe-worthy. How polite is it to subject a captive audience to this kind of thing? It seemed rude to make wedding guests who can't really get up and walk out, listen to your badly rehearsed, badly performed 'item' during the speeches.
The reception seemed to be a bit unorganised. As in, sister MC seemed not to know when things were happening, tried to 'fill' with off the cuff remarks, and kept interrupting conversation to give 5 minute warnings before things would happen. Then things happened at odd times - the bridal waltz came between main course and dessert, toasting wine was served, then no toasts were actually made.
Then, having tossed the bouquet and thrown the garter at about 8.15pm, the DJ announced that the photographer would be taking group photographs now, and despite an almost 3 hour gap between ceremony and reception, the photographer proceeded to set up an area on the dance floor and started calling family groups over to have portraits taken.
I'm not sure whether there was dancing planned for after this activity, because we left at close to 9pm after half an hour of family photos: 'Let's have the B&G and his parents, now Aunty Ethel can join, now all the cousins, now one with grandma,' etc etc. I thought it was really rude of the couple to plan an activity during the reception that effectively interrupted all conversations, background music was turned off, food was finished etc, and excluded all non-family guests, which lasted for over half an hour. They were still in full swing when we went home.
I'm not personally offended by this, and it was actually good to get home early- we had a big day on Monday, but is this a bad idea?