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#### Yarnspinner

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##### rude to flush in the wee hours? (yes, I see what I did there)possible squick
« on: January 02, 2014, 04:01:33 PM »
This could be in family as well, but I've had this discussion with friends about their guests so decided this could go here.

Warning:  slightly queasy contents here.

Within minutes of arriving at my brother's home for the holidays, it became abundantly clear that I had a UTI which I had mistaken for travel nerves.  I spent a large part of Christmas week gulping cranberry juice and water in addition to antibiotics and azo painkillers.  The natural result was that I spent a lot of time in the bathroom.

The bathroom I was using connected my room with another guest room inhabited by SIL's Mom and my niece who offered me her room.  Here's where I have the question:

I was in and out of the bathroom several times each night straight thru into the a.m.  Each time I used the facilities, I flushed because...well, who wants to see the contents?

However, Gramma also uses that bathroom and very pointedly did not flush when she used the bathroom during the night.  This resulted in me, I am sorry to say, flushing twice because...ugh!

I have had conversations with friends who complain about guests who seem to think the polite thing to do after everyone has gone to bed is to not flush until the a.m.  We all agree that the polite thing to do is flush so that everyone has a clean canvas, so to speak.

Is this just me?  Am I just easily squicked out?  Where do ehellions land on this issue or non-issue as the case may be?

#### 123sandy

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##### Re: rude to flush in the wee hours? (yes, I see what I did there)possible squick
« Reply #1 on: January 02, 2014, 04:06:25 PM »
Flush! Absolutely, flush.

#### bah12

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##### Re: rude to flush in the wee hours? (yes, I see what I did there)possible squick
« Reply #2 on: January 02, 2014, 04:11:03 PM »
This is a thing?  I think not flushing is disgusting.

#### Nikko-chan

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##### Re: rude to flush in the wee hours? (yes, I see what I did there)possible squick
« Reply #3 on: January 02, 2014, 04:13:45 PM »
I agree! Flush. More than once if you have to but flush the toilet!

#### MrsVandy

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##### Re: rude to flush in the wee hours? (yes, I see what I did there)possible squick
« Reply #4 on: January 02, 2014, 04:14:39 PM »
I don't flush in my own home, if its late at night, liquid and we have no guests. But I always flush at someone else's home.

#### rose red

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##### Re: rude to flush in the wee hours? (yes, I see what I did there)possible squick
« Reply #5 on: January 02, 2014, 04:17:02 PM »
As a guest?  I always flush unless I have my own private bathroom and can wait.  Sorry, but I don't care what time it is.  Nobody needs to see other people's...contents.  Gag.

#### jedikaiti

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##### Re: rude to flush in the wee hours? (yes, I see what I did there)possible squick
« Reply #6 on: January 02, 2014, 04:18:53 PM »
Flush flush flush!

Logistically, if you didn't, wouldn't the TP just build up until you had a pipe-clogging mess? If for no other reason than that, flush!
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#### Yarnspinner

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##### Re: rude to flush in the wee hours? (yes, I see what I did there)possible squick
« Reply #7 on: January 02, 2014, 04:25:12 PM »
Flush flush flush!

Logistically, if you didn't, wouldn't the TP just build up until you had a pipe-clogging mess? If for no other reason than that, flush!

Well, that was my thought especially as  gramma uses lots of  tp.

#### Luci

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##### Re: rude to flush in the wee hours? (yes, I see what I did there)possible squick
« Reply #8 on: January 02, 2014, 04:27:53 PM »
Flush. After a couple of times, most people will sleep through it anyway.

We have always been fortunate to have a closet between the bathroom and a bedroom, or have the toilet on a wall not adjacent to a bedroom. Once we had guests, so I tried to use the basement toilet if I could make it.

#### Gwywnnydd

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##### Re: rude to flush in the wee hours? (yes, I see what I did there)possible squick
« Reply #9 on: January 02, 2014, 04:28:42 PM »
I'm used to households that save water by not flushing liquids (or at least, not flushing every use). In my own home, I'll do that (in my own en suite, or if we don't have guests). In someone elses home, I'll default to flushing, unless it's obvious the house as a rule doesn't.

#### Outdoor Girl

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##### Re: rude to flush in the wee hours? (yes, I see what I did there)possible squick
« Reply #10 on: January 02, 2014, 04:30:58 PM »
I'm in the other camp - but I grew up on a well with limited water so the family mantra was always, 'If it's yellow, let it mellow.'  So it doesn't squick me out at all.  I live alone so I only flush every other time to save water.  I do flush every time if I have guests, other than family since we all still follow the rule for water conservation reasons.

If I'm a guest or have guests visiting, I don't flush in the middle of the night because I don't want to wake people.  But if I was asked to flush, I would try to remember to do so.
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#### EllenS

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##### Re: rude to flush in the wee hours? (yes, I see what I did there)possible squick
« Reply #11 on: January 02, 2014, 04:33:49 PM »
We don't flush every time with liquids unless we have company.  (for water conservation) As a guest in someone's home I absolutely flush every time unless they tell me not to.  I have lived in apartments where flushing was so noisy it would wake the baby, so I would sometimes let folks know that we don't flush while Baby is sleeping. (if you have ever had a baby who was a dicey sleeper, you'll do just about anything)

I would always assume the rule is flush, unless specifically told otherwise.

#### veronaz

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##### Re: rude to flush in the wee hours? (yes, I see what I did there)possible squick
« Reply #12 on: January 02, 2014, 04:37:51 PM »
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I would always assume the rule is flush, unless specifically told otherwise.

This.

I know sometimes flushing can be noisy, but the same applies to hand washing, coughing, etc.  Just things we need to do.

#### Hmmmmm

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##### Re: rude to flush in the wee hours? (yes, I see what I did there)possible squick
« Reply #13 on: January 02, 2014, 04:46:07 PM »
I'm joining the majority and saying to flush. It wouldn't have occurred to me not too.

#### bah12

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##### Re: rude to flush in the wee hours? (yes, I see what I did there)possible squick
« Reply #14 on: January 02, 2014, 04:47:21 PM »
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I would always assume the rule is flush, unless specifically told otherwise.

This.

I know sometimes flushing can be noisy, but the same applies to hand washing, coughing, etc.  Just things we need to do.

I agree.  I must have been "sheltered" in my life.  It never even occurred to me that flushing was optional in any case.  Gross!  I would much rather wake up to the sound of flushing toilet, then look at other people's waste (I don't care what color).  TP clogging the pipes, the smell, etc.  It would never even occur to me to tell a guest that I prefer flushing and luckily that hasn't been an issue!