Deb,
I think speaking up about it was such a great move! Does your principal know why you were out? While it is definitely inappropriate to contact others for trivial things while they are out of the office, it is especially unprofessional to contact someone who is on bereavement leave - borderline harrassment (even if it was 'only once'). I hope that this detail is communicated to your principal as well, for your own peace of mind. As for contacting you regarding something someone else asked him to do, the only appropriate response is "what does {other teacher's name] say about it?" or no response at all. It sounds like his antics are wearing on you (and others) and perhaps even escalating...
Thanks so much for the support! My principal knew why I was gone, and attended my dad's funeral to support me. She agrees that it was inappropriate, and it has been noted.
As far as the rest, I am really going to make an effort to communicate with him briefly or not at all. His antics are definitely wearing on me, as far as others...I'm really the only one who is subjected to him in prolonged doses. The principal wants him out, though, so hopefully that will happen.