My great aunt and uncle share a rented house with their son and his wife and son (10 years old). This is the third different time they've all lived together, but the first time they all lived in a house that they're all renting together.
My aunt has her own TV/computer room which is very small. She has two computer chairs in there and one love seat (it sits two people). Despite the fact that her grandson has his own laptop, his dad's computer, a Wii, a Playstation, a Nintentdo DSi, and a Kindle Fire, he's always using my aunt's computer. As soon as he gets home from school he goes straight for that computer. About 98% of the time I go over there, he's in front of that computer for hours. I rarely see him doing anything else.
My problem is that when my mom and I want to visit our aunt, her grandson is always in the room. There's not enough room for all four of us in there, especially when he's using that computer. My mom and I don't want to sit on the love seat with our aunt because it's disgustingly filthy but also because we don't want to sit that close to anyone.
We like sitting in the computer chairs, but if the grandson is using the computer, it gets crowded in there and we (Mom and me) don't like it. And admittedly, because I have ADD-PI (the lesser known inattentive type) I like to use the computer while we're chatting or else I get very bored and irritable. I'm not good at social chit-chat so it's impossible for me to maintain a conversation and that's when I get bored. I contribute only when I have something worthwhile to say. Using the computer actually helps me contribute to the conversation because it helps stimulate my brain and we can talk about things I'm looking up on the computer such as Crocs shoes or recipes, etc. If I just sit in the chair, even if I'm looking at a magazine, I get bored and people can tell because I start foot tapping or spinning around (I'm over 30, BTW).
We also don't like that the grandson is in the room at all when we visit. We want to have adult conversation and we don't want a child around, especially considering we might want to talk about things he shouldn't hear. Besides, he sometimes interrupts the conversation. And to be honest, we can't stand his bad attitude. He's condescending, negative, a know-it-all, controlling, rude, and hot tempered. I've tried to be like a big sister to him since he's being raised as an only child (his brother is much older and in the military), but he's extremely difficult to get along with. Some people with more patience get along better with him like his uncle, but most people just don't like him because of his attitude. He even gets picked on or ignored by his classmates because of his attitude - they don't like it either. I tried for many years to do things with him, but after last year, I had to give up on him for the sake of my own sanity. If he was actually my brother, it would be different, but he's my half second cousin.
Our aunt seems to be oblivious to everything. There was one time she was actually going to allow her grandson and his friend to use the computer while my mom and I were visiting with her! My mom and I decided to leave. The other day I had been there using the computer when the grandson got home from school. He was clearly upset and kept asking me when I would be done. He was getting more and more irritated as time passed on. I suggested to him to go use his laptop he got for Christmas, but he didn't want to. Even after we convinced him to use it, he kept waiting for me to be done and made irritated groans every so often. The whole time, my aunt just sat there and didn't say anything. Personally, I thought it was very rude of him to behave that way and for my aunt to allow it.
Basically, my mom and I don't feel welcome over there at all because of the grandson. I don't necessarily have a problem with him being in there when I'm there without my mom, but when she's there too, there's just too many people in the room.
So... I'm wondering if it's acceptable for the grandson to be in the room using the computer when we come over? Shouldn't our aunt ask him to leave so us adults can talk and visit with each other? Can we ask him to leave? Opinions, please.