BG: One of my childhood friends has a beachfront home. Up until about 3 years ago she was never allowed to use it because the aunt that formally owned it (she passed away and left it to my friend, her only grandchild) was nutty and would never let anyone near the house. As a result the house fell into terrible disrepair - she was a hoarder.
3 Summers ago when the house became available, my friend invited me down for a long weekend. (2 1/2 hour drive.) I went, excited to spend a weekend on the beach. I almost passed out when I saw the house. It. Is. DISGUSTING. It is packed to the brim with old junk, we are talking floor to ceiling with stuff and tiny pathways in the bedrooms and dining room. Dirty beyond anything you can imagine, smells, dusty, has ants, black mold on everything, and mice. The place is a disaster beyond what I can explain. After spending the day at the beach we came back to the house and while sitting on a chair in the living room a weird bug fell on me - and then that night, while I was laying in bed (THANK GOD I brought my own sheets) I heard something crawling around in the junk on the floor of the bedroom. I genuinely think it was a snake by the sound it was making.
I woke up the next morning with a terrible sore throat, stuffy nose, and irritated eyes. I ended up going home that afternoon (I thought I picked up a freak cold) and realized that the symptoms were a result of the house since they were gone by that night after I got home and showered.
Since that weekend my friend has invited me down to the beach house several times but I always decline the offer or suck it up and go down for just the day since we spend the days outside at the beach. One time I drove down for the day it ended up raining so we watched movies in the house and by the afternoon the sore throat and stuffy nose returned so I am clearly allergic to something in the house. I refuse to sleep there as the place is just so gross. It's been 3 years and the house has not been cleaned or had any work done to it and I know for a fact nothing is being planned for it either. My friend has never commented on the condition of the house and seems to see no issue with it. :END BG
My friend wanted to set up a girls weekend at the beach house this summer. She sent out a few dates to our group of friends. Luckily I genuinely had prior commitments on the weekends she offered. When I told her, she texted me and said to send her a couple weekends I was free because "since you're always so busy I want you to be able to come for the whole weekend so I'll adjust the date around you".
Some things to note:
- Our other friends feel the same way about the gross house, but live much closer than me so day trips are easy for them so they don't usually decline invites for a beach day but after the first visit, none have stayed over since.
- There are only a couple hotels in this beach area, and they are usually around $400.00 a night on a summer weekend. This is out of my budget. I would be willing to split the room with other people - but how would I explain that to friend? She specifically wants a girls weekend at HER house.
I LOVE my friend for wanting me to come down and for being generous with her beach house - but this place is just so awful I can't bring myself to stay. I don't want to hurt my friend by saying "your house makes me sick" but it's the truth. I would love to do a beach weekend with all my girl friends - just not at this house.
Advice would be appreciated (and I can provide more info as needed).