I didn't want to hijack Shay's thread, so I'll post a new thread . . .
Why do we (the rhetorical we) do this? Why do some people get a B/GF, or get married, and immediately drop all contact w/ friends they've known for years and years, including longer than the S.O.?
When my "paired-up" friends no longer want to go out on a weekend night to a bar or a club for some drinks anymore, it's like they were saying the only reason they ever went in the first place was to find a B/GF. And I'm not saying I expect them to come EVERY time, I even get that people want to spend the MAJORITY of their free time w/ S.O., but you can't come *1* time out of 5? Or can't you ever come out w/ S.O.? Don't get me wrong, I think your S.O. is a great person (and I'd like to meet his friends if he has cute, single ones), but can't we just be ALONE sometimes? Like clothes shopping?
Even worse are the friends who only want to do something if S.O. is busy, or has plans my friend is invited to. Thanks, I'm so glad to know I'm second choice, but btw, I've made plans w/ the friends who still call me regularly, and want to do stuff w/ me not just as a back-up plan. You're welcome to join us, but be warned, no one will be amused when you sit at the table & sulk til you finally call your S.O., and then immediately perk up when he arrives, after he's done w/ his other thing.
And please, please when I call you, and you're with S.O., I want to talk to you! Please don't turn your head & tell your Honey everything I'm saying. If I want your Honey's opinion on something I WILL ASK. If I've interrupted you two, just let me know & we'll talk later.
And please expect an
or 2 once you've stopped calling me (& all of your other female friends), only to call me out of the blue after X # of months to either 1.) tell me you & Honey broke up and you need a shoulder to cry on or 2.) he proposed, & you want me as your BM.
P.S. I know my rant is more about how women do this, but I realize men can be guilty of this, too.