Just a comment on Chinese weddings and red dresses. My ex-boyfriends mom was born and raised in China and she came to Canada to marry her Chinese husband after he set up life here. She wore a white wedding dress for church and one of those pretty, fitted red embroidered dress to the reception. Another Chinese friend of mine who got married in China before she andher husband came here and she did the same thing, white dress to church, red dress to reception. I don't think its generational because their weddings would have been twenty years apart. I've been under the impression that this was tradition there. But all my Chinese friends are Cantonese, maybe Mandarin weddings are different.
But I think in the Western world anything goes as long as you don't show up in a big, fluffy dress. And are properly covered. My ex husband brought his girlfriend to my moms funeral three years ago. She wore a mini skirt and thigh high boots. People are still talking about it. I don't think you must wear black to a funeral but don't be silly!😄