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EllenS

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Re: Bridal shower--what kind of gifts?
« Reply #15 on: March 23, 2015, 11:56:57 AM »
POD that in my dh's family, a bridal shower can actually be about family circle or parent's friends as much as about Bride's own friends.

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Even now, the parents of some of my kids' playmates are so much younger than me, they feel obliged to call me Mrs. Lastname, since I am the same age as their mom!
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Re: Bridal shower--what kind of gifts?
« Reply #16 on: March 23, 2015, 11:59:34 AM »
I'll POD along here with Lynn and Toots.  In DH's family, showers include every female guest invited to the wedding and they are multi-course luncheons held at banquet halls.  Shower gifts tend to be in the $50-$100 range although families may get together to purchase costlier items.  It's not what I grew up with and didn't really want for myself, but I saw how disappointed DH's family was when we started talking about not wanting a shower that we acquiesced.  We had already eschewed the standard engagement party so we didn't want to turn our backs entirely on the family, which is what would have essentially happened if we would have passed on the shower as well.


POD to TootsNYC. I've attended a few showers for people I've never met, because they were marrying someone I knew (like a cousin), and it was a female-only shower so my cousin the groom wasn't there. And I've also seen people give place settings and so forth at showers. I usually think, okay, if they're giving an entire place setting at the shower, they must be giving something even bigger for the wedding. Because that would still keep the pattern of "smaller gift at the shower," it's just that their "small gift" is bigger than my "large gift." They just have a higher overall budget than me. I wouldn't try to compete with that, I would just stick to the pattern for myself.

I think overall it's quite variable. Some people have enormous showers with full multi-course meals and drinks, more elaborate than some wedding receptions I've been to. Whereas other people have small showers with cake and punch, or multiple small showers with different themes (hopefully with mostly different guest lists!).

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Re: Bridal shower--what kind of gifts?
« Reply #17 on: March 23, 2015, 07:07:48 PM »
I totally agree that it is common to attend a shower from the groom's side to welcome the bride. It isn't like "your" side of the HC won't benefit from the mixer attachment or cookbook.

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Re: Bridal shower--what kind of gifts?
« Reply #18 on: March 24, 2015, 01:31:41 AM »
I would call the bride's mom and ask if they are registered anywhere and then pick something from the list.

Around here, smaller showers are held in someone's home and are generally cake, drinks, appetizers, finger sandwiches  type meals.  Larger showers are held in a church hall with similar menu.

Shower gifts here run in the $15 to $20ish range (unless you are a mom, grandma, aunt, etc).  They can be household items from the registry or a smaller piece of china if the hc is registered for that. 
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Re: Bridal shower--what kind of gifts? update
« Reply #19 on: March 25, 2015, 09:31:49 PM »
Well I liked Toots' idea of the linens to complement the china but confounded Macy's didn't have the ones I wanted in stock. So I got some gardening supplies (there were gloves and loppers and stuff on the registry as well). Didn't get the registered lopper set bc it's a bit big to carry home but got a pair of hand snips (you can never have too many of those), the gloves, and a sun hat (because, Texas).

Thanks everyone!  :D

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Re: Bridal shower--what kind of gifts? update
« Reply #20 on: March 26, 2015, 11:15:38 AM »
Well I liked Toots' idea of the linens to complement the china but confounded Macy's didn't have the ones I wanted in stock. So I got some gardening supplies (there were gloves and loppers and stuff on the registry as well). Didn't get the registered lopper set bc it's a bit big to carry home but got a pair of hand snips (you can never have too many of those), the gloves, and a sun hat (because, Texas).

Thanks everyone!  :D

That sounds like a lovely and thoughtful gift.