Some people place a lot of importance on being part of the wedding party. As I said earlier in the thread, I've never wanted to be a bridesmaid, nor would I want to have any should the opportunity arise. Though, partly that's because I feel they are
important, in the relationship
they represent, and I don't have anyone who fulfills that relationship
for me, so I would rather have none at all, than ask someone I'm not very close to, just to have the role filled.
People get very fraught about it. A friend of mine fully expected that when her cousin got married, Friend and Friend's sister would be asked to be bridesmaids; they are the bride's only female cousins, at least on the side they share (not sure about the other side). Instead the bride had seven bridesmaids, none of whom were Friend or her sister. Friend was so
mad. There was talk that Friend could do a reading or something. I believe her exact quote was, "At this point, anything less than being a bridesmaid would be a slap in the face."
I had never realized before then how passionate some people can be about this subject. (Friend was not
ever asked to be a bridesmaid.)