My dad's younger brother, Jack, is going to be married next month and I have a couple of relatively minor questions relating to the big day.
1. My dad passed away 3 years ago. Awhile before that, my (overly dramatic) mother had left him, but they had more or less made friends before Dad's death. My uncle has good memories of our family (he lived with us awhile when my siblings and I were small) and likes my mom well enough despite the drama between my parents.
Uncle Jack invited her to the wedding, but sent 1 invite to the family at my house. Mom has expressly asked me not to pass her contact info to anybody at all.
Mom doesn't want to go. I have communicated this to my uncle with the rsvp for the family members who are going. He's now bugging me on Facebook as to why she's not coming. The reasons are mainly petty and it would really just cause hurtful, unnecessary drama to explain it. I've just told him she can't make it and I don't know why. But, he keeps pressing the issue.
How should I proceed handling this? Keep repeating that she's not coming and I don't know why? Make up something innocuous that prevents her? I'm concerned both with the Facebook messages now and in person at the wedding/ reception. Uncle Jack and his daughters are pretty persistent. I'd like to shut it down politely and without drama!
2. The wedding is at 6pm on a weekday and has a semi formal dress code. I'll be coming straight from work. I have a work dress that I think might be okay, but want some opinions.
The dress is knee length and black. It has cap sleeves and the top is peplem style. It's not low cut. I'd wear it with sparkly jewelery and probably black pumps. Is this okay for an evening wedding in the summer?
The alternative I have in my closet is a navy blue, frilly dress with a frilly flower detail on the neckline. It's also knee length. I wore this one to my company's Christmas party last winter.
3. Last question! If the wedding starts at 6, what's the appropriate time to arrive?
Thank you all in advance!