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Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
« Reply #60 on: February 04, 2014, 04:18:01 PM »
Tip for brides who want sleeves: Look at Mormon wedding dresses.  They're just as beautiful but they all have sleeves for religious reasons.  Your local bridal shop can order them.


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Also, dresses worn in (orthodox) Jewish weddings are more modest and involve sleeves and shoulder coverings. 

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« Reply #61 on: February 04, 2014, 04:24:51 PM »
I think this is something that a lot of people don't realise - particularly with the rage of cheap knockoffs from Asia which are now available.

A properly constructed strapless dress has boning through the bodice and is specifically designed to act as undergarment as well as dress.  THey suppose the frame of the body and the breast, creating a smooth line over the torso, and appropriate lift and support for your breasts.  Whether it i s laced, buttoned or ziped, wearing a bra underneath is completely unnecessary if it has been properly fitted to you.  Because of its structure and fit, it won't ride up or slip down.  They can be stiff to move around in - that is the payoff for support.

POD. My bridal salon had an option that for $100 extra they would change the cup size built into a strapless dress from the standard size, a C, up to a larger size. It provides more coverage for bustier brides and means that the bodice of the dress essentially does double duty as a long line bra. The salesgirl had it done to hers and she didn't have to wear a strapless bra with her dress (which can create additional bulk and lumpiness), and it stayed up all night. I went for it, figuring worst case scenario, I would still wear a bra underneath. Well, it turned out I didn't have to - between the boning, thick satin fabric, and the properly sized cups, that dress was not going ANYWHERE. I literally jumped up in down in it (my litmus test for strapless) during the fitting and it didn't budge. I danced in it and ran around all night and didn't once worry about "wardrobe malfunctions."

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« Reply #62 on: February 04, 2014, 04:38:08 PM »
I remember we watched a bride leaving home with her bridesmaids, not even in the car yet, and she was already pulling up her strapless dress. She would be doing that all day unless do done gad dress tape.

My dress was backless and mermaid line, so no real room for underwear as it showed off everything. Fortunately I had a bra built in to the dress and I wore seamless panties.

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« Reply #63 on: February 05, 2014, 06:59:07 PM »
Just let me first say I'm not wedding-crazy ;).  Don't like to attend weddings and wouldn't want a big fancy one.

But I will always remember the wedding dress I was really tempted to buy even though I wasn't even dating anyone ;D.  It was about 15 years ago in a small shop.  The dress was romantically medieval looking yet still very simple.  I've never saw one like it or since.  It was only around $200 and I wanted to grab it for my future wedding.  Happily (or sadly) I came to me senses which was a good thing because I haven't even gotten close to getting married. 

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« Reply #64 on: February 05, 2014, 07:29:38 PM »
I'm also somebody who had no idea people cared about pure white vs. off-white!   My sister and I both had ivory because it suits our skin tone.  Nobody commented on it to my knowledge!   (And one of us was "eligible" to wear pure white by the ridiculous traditional standard, the other one wasn't  ;) that was not a factor we even remotely considered relevant!).   

I was a young bride and a bit self-conscious of people thinking I was just getting married for a big dress and fun.    I was scared people wouldn't take me seriously so thought I should have a sensible dress.   DH however dreamt of a beautiful princess gown - he even drew me a picture!   ;D    I ended up getting a dress from my favourite wedding dress designer who I'd admired for years.  It had a very flattering long corset waist which gave me shape, and meant the fit was great.    It cost $1500.  The surprising thing was I ended up strapless which was something I'd never liked, but it worked really well.  It's the only time I've ever worn a strapless dress, ever!  It looked amazing though, and I loved the feel of the high quality fabric and beading.  Also because this designer specialises in the corset waist it was a very well-made strapless gown and fitted perfectly.

I actually did go dress shopping with my sister to the store she bought her dress from which were cheap imports from China and very affordable.   The dresses looked nice, but I could tell how cheap the fabrics were, and it just didn't appeal to me.  I just don't like cheap lace.   She was happy with her dress, and the photos are lovely, it just wasn't something to my taste.    I've had other friends who have also been very proud of their affordable wedding dresses, and I've been happy for them, but in all honesty I thought the dresses looked cheap in terms of fabric, cut and fit.   Which is fine because if they're happy that's all that matters!!   I guess I just have expensive taste when it comes to fabric??  In my day to day life I am somebody who happily and typically shops at cheap department stores for my work clothes and everyday wear - I'm definitely not a designer girl.    But for me a fancy dress needs to be made with good quality fabric in order to sit nicely and feel beautiful to wear.   All of my "fancy" dresses are higher end and lovely fabrics.   I have seen some stunning home-made wedding dresses made from good quality fabric, so I think that is one way to do it affordably if you have the sewing skills available.  In my case I was afraid of it not turning out the way I'd envisioned so preferred to buy off the rack.  (Mine was made to order but based on a floor model so I knew exactly how it would look).   So far I've never seen a really, really cheap wedding dress in person that I personally thought looked really great, but that's just been my experience - I have seen some nice ones posted on eHell so it's possible in other parts of the world there are some more affordable options available that are better quality!    But based on my experience, when I hear somebody boasting about how little they spent I don't think "Wow that's awesome!" I just think you get what you pay for, and if they're happy with what they spent good for them.   It's a choice though.
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« Reply #65 on: February 06, 2014, 02:23:10 PM »
The "looking cheap" is why my Mom dissuaded me from ordering my dress online, as I initially wanted to do. A valid concern - aside from checking reviews and BBB, I had no way of knowing if they would be stitched well enough to hold together, or if it would really look all that good on me. I wish I could have gone more expensive, and maybe gotten a dress I liked better, but hey - it's only one day, and now I am selling it. And it did look good!
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« Reply #66 on: February 06, 2014, 02:25:25 PM »
I am not a big fan of super shiny fabric, so that was also important to me. Also, I wanted no lace on my dress.

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« Reply #67 on: February 08, 2014, 11:41:17 AM »
I sewed my own wedding dress, for a lot of reasons. 1) I love to sew. 2) I'm a difficult fit, short, plump and busty. 3) I had NO MONEY to get married on. I was working only part-time and my family are not rich.  My folks were able to give me $1000, and I had $500 saved on my own, so the whole budget for the whole wedding was $1500. I bought a pattern from Folkwear--the 1912 Garden Party dress. I splurged on some really fine lace and silk; my shoes cost $50 from a local shop; and I was given a straw hat by a friend, which I covered with a bit of veiling and some silk roses from Hobby Lobby. Entire wedding outfit cost: $300.
As for the rest, I got more silk flowers to decorate the church and the reception hall. (Hall rented for a total of $45.) My sister made my wedding cake. I sewed bridesmaids dresses for her and another friend, and a flower-girl dress for my niece. We were married at 2 pm with the reception from 3-6, so the only food we needed was cake, punch and a few appetizers which several friends provided. Our music was CDs of classical and big-band music which another friend played for us during the reception. Yet another friend was a professional photographer and gave us a good deal on pictures.
Was our wedding spectacular, elegant, a perfect fairy-tale day? No. But it was the day I married the love of my life, and 18 years later we are still blissfully happy.

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« Reply #68 on: February 08, 2014, 04:49:58 PM »
Was our wedding spectacular, elegant, a perfect fairy-tale day? No. But it was the day I married the love of my life, and 18 years later we are still blissfully happy.

It sounds like you put on a lovely event for your guests, and that you have lots of family and friends who love you and could help out. I'm actually making a wedding cake as a gift in a couple of weeks for a lovely young couple without lots of money and I'm thrilled to be able to do it. I suspect that it will be a lovely, thoughtful wedding, without a lot of bells and whistles, and that I'll enjoy it very much.

Lots of money doesn't always make for a classy event, and vise versa.

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Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
« Reply #69 on: February 09, 2014, 11:27:29 AM »
That's the key--love, not money. And remembering that the important thing is not the WEDDING, but the MARRIAGE that follows!

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« Reply #70 on: February 15, 2014, 01:09:35 AM »
I got super lucky. I have a friend that got married only a few years ago and she sold me her dress for about $150 plus I have to pay for alterations. We have pretty similar builds, I just have to get it hemmed and it needs to be taken in at the shoulders a bit. It's gorgeous, much nicer than anything I would have been able to afford if I'd bought it new. :)

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« Reply #71 on: February 16, 2014, 03:53:41 AM »
(I'm only 2'' shorter than DH, so heels were out). 

I'm always intruiged when people feel they must be shorter that their OH.  My DH and I are pretty much the same height - and then he slouches.  I still wore heels :)

I am a LOT taller than the Good Ethnic Boy - he can face plant in my cleavage without bending down (and did, in one of our wedding photos!  >:D). I didn't wear heels, but that was at least partly because I can only balance in really high ones - think 6" - and that would've been kinda silly. ;)

My DH is a little sensitive about his height.  He's 5'8", not exactly short, but I would have hated to see him uncomfortable on our wedding day!

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Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
« Reply #72 on: February 26, 2014, 09:50:44 AM »

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« Reply #73 on: February 26, 2014, 11:37:09 AM »
That is gorgeous!

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Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
« Reply #74 on: February 26, 2014, 03:51:38 PM »
This was my dress only I wore it in ivory.

http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Petite-Strapless-Lace-and-Tulle-Slim-Gown-7CWG352_Bridal-Gowns-Shop-By-Trend-Lacy-Looks

Looking at it now I am kinda sad because 2 years ago they were selling it for $1200.  I paid $600 for it second hand.

I loved the dress though.  I was married in a Victoria hotel so the dress really suited the venue.

Edit to add: I did have the back modified.  Since I bought second hand on ebay I had to order what was available and that was a dress 2 sizes too small.  i had the back changed to a lace up corset style with a modesty panel which allowed the dress to go up a few sizes.  My seamstress added the bra cups and for less than $50 in alterations that dress fit like a glove and didn't budge at all.
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