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Brisvegasgal

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New neighbours - who makes the first move?
« on: January 28, 2014, 02:18:32 AM »
This is probably a strange question but...we got new neighbours a week ago. Should we go over and introduce ourselves or wait for them? Also, if we go over, should we bring something?

I'm in Australia (Brisbane) if that helps.

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Re: New neighbours - who makes the first move?
« Reply #1 on: January 28, 2014, 02:59:03 AM »
I think it would be nice to welcome them to the neighborhood, maybe with some cookies or other dessert :).



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Re: New neighbours - who makes the first move?
« Reply #2 on: January 28, 2014, 03:19:42 AM »
I think you should make the first move. The new arrivals don't know the neighborhood culture, so they may not be comfortable with going around and knocking on doors. (I know I probably wouldn't!)

Bringing something is nice but not necessary. I agree with guihong about bringing some small comestible. It will probably be welcome, especially if they're still living among the chaos and peanuts. If they want you to come in immediately, it takes the pressure off of them trying to find a decent snack. If they can't host you right away, it's still a nice snack for them later. I'd go by with a plate of cookies and an invitation to lunch or tea.

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Re: New neighbours - who makes the first move?
« Reply #3 on: January 28, 2014, 03:26:20 AM »
I don't know that there is a "rule" on this (i've had it work both ways - when the new person came over to introduce themselves or the already-there neighbords came over to welcome the new people) - so i say "just do it". it's nice to know who your neighbors are - jsut go over and introduce yourselves, maybe give them a few local "pointers" (where the better shopping places are, etc). bringing a plate of cookies or a small plant is nice but don't feel bad if you can't

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Re: New neighbours - who makes the first move?
« Reply #4 on: January 28, 2014, 06:41:21 AM »
Another little 'gift' they might find helpful could be a few take-out menus from restaurants you like. 

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Re: New neighbours - who makes the first move?
« Reply #5 on: January 28, 2014, 07:03:07 AM »
If the local community has a small local paper or magazine sharing local events it might be nice to share that, as well.

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Re: New neighbours - who makes the first move?
« Reply #6 on: January 28, 2014, 08:21:48 AM »
Just pop over to introduce yourself and say 'welcome.'  If it makes sense, bring some sweets from the local bakery.  Stay on the doorstep and be brief.  I might also bring a slip of paper with a sketch of the surrounding houses with everyone's names, along with just my phone & e-mail.  Moving to a new neighborhood and learning all the names at once can be intimidating.

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Re: New neighbours - who makes the first move?
« Reply #7 on: January 28, 2014, 08:30:38 AM »
This is probably a strange question but...we got new neighbours a week ago. Should we go over and introduce ourselves or wait for them? Also, if we go over, should we bring something?

I'm in Australia (Brisbane) if that helps.

Thanks  :)

As a fellow Brisbanite, it's always been my experience (and that of my family and friends) that we just introduce ourselves when we see each other outside. Sometimes it happens 'accidentally on purpose' after peering through the curtains for an opportune time. :P

I'd find it rather offputting if a complete stranger knocked on my door and handed me a plate of food TBH. It might not be a good time to socialise with strangers for one thing.

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Re: New neighbours - who makes the first move?
« Reply #8 on: January 28, 2014, 08:53:59 AM »
I don't think there is a set rule, but I think that it's fine for you to introduce yourselves. I'm in the UK, and I would not offer a gift. (Although if I saw them actually moving in I might offer them / their removal men a cup of tea & a biscuit)


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Re: New neighbours - who makes the first move?
« Reply #9 on: January 28, 2014, 09:08:53 AM »
I've always thought it was customary to welcome newcomers to the neighborhood.

What have you got? Is it food? Is it for me? I want it whatever it is!

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Re: New neighbours - who makes the first move?
« Reply #10 on: January 28, 2014, 09:15:26 AM »
Do people still do this? I've lived in 7 different homes over the last 6 years and never had the neighbours come by to introduce themselves/welcome us to the street.

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Re: New neighbours - who makes the first move?
« Reply #11 on: January 28, 2014, 10:12:36 AM »
Do people still do this? I've lived in 7 different homes over the last 6 years and never had the neighbours come by to introduce themselves/welcome us to the street.

Yes, in my neighborhood you usually have a few who still do. Maybe not a parade of welcoming baskets but at least the neighbors on each side try to come by and say hello.

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Re: New neighbours - who makes the first move?
« Reply #12 on: January 28, 2014, 10:16:36 AM »
When I moved in, as few neighbours came by. It was very nice. I think someone gave us a container of strawberries. What I really liked was the cards with the names of everyone in the house. So useful.

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Re: New neighbours - who makes the first move?
« Reply #13 on: January 28, 2014, 10:26:28 AM »
You are the established people--the onus is on you to reach out to them. I think that *is* a set rule.
(In Jane Austen's Price and Prejudice, Mr. Bennett goes to welcome Mr. Bingley to the neighborhood.) 

So swing by and say hello. Bring something as a welcome gift if you can.

 (I love that card w/ the names of everyone in the house, and contact info perhaps. Or maybe a list of all the nearby vendors you use and recommend--dry cleaner, handyman, plumber, which grocery story is best for what, etc., nearest park for kids vs. dogs, that sort of stuff.)

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Re: New neighbours - who makes the first move?
« Reply #14 on: January 28, 2014, 11:19:05 AM »
I don't think there's a rule.  I've introduced myself to neighbors when I was the new one and the other way around.   I've had the new neighbors come to me first at times and the other way around.  Introducing yourself to a neighbor and creating a friendly atmosphere is just a nice thing to do.  I don't think it matters who makes the first move.

And I'm sure there are people out there that will get weirded out by someone they don't know knocking on their door to say "hi", but introducing yourself as a neighbor is a perfectly legitimate 'excuse' to do that. I wouldn't worry if the neighbor doesn't like it.  It just communicates that we have different styles/levels of what it means to be friendly...and that's a good thing to know.