A six hour round trip for a party? No. I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but your wedding is not that important to other people. If you want a big party, great, but hold it where it's convenient for your guests. Have the ceremony in the place that special to you, with the people around you that you want to have there. But if you're going to exclude a lot of people from that part, don't make them travel a long distance to party with you. To me, that seems very self-centered.